Can ex's family influence ex to return

[renaissancewoman101]

This is just a curiosity question. It does pertain to me, but I am moving on with my life and am moving to San Diego by the end of this month. My ex has currently moved on and is dating a new girl who is only 18 years old. I am moving on with my life, even though I do have some residual feelings for my ex. On a practical level, I do know the ex is not a good match for me.

 

On a previous post, I had mentioned that my ex's mother had called me to tell me that there was still hope in getting the ex to come back to me. She thinks she can work miracles in getting the ex to come back. She tells me the ex still has feelings for me and if I get rid of my best friend and his bf and dont concentrate on them, then there is a BIG possibility that the ex may come back. She wants me to keep in contact with them and limited contact with the ex and if I do as she says, there is a BIG possiblity ex will come back to me. My ex's mother really likes me and wanted me to eventually end up her daughter in law.

 

I still have feelings for the ex and sometimes do wish to have him back in my life. Her phone call has given me some hope, which I KNOW I SHOULD NOT HAVE. Has anybody ever been in my shoes with an interfering ex's mother? Can there BE any hope? Ex is really under the thumb of his mother.

 

Previously, I had also written that the mutual friend of me and the ex now hates the ex because of his drinking. The last two times I met up with my ex, he has begged me to talk to the mutual friend to see if things can be patched up because he is hurt that she is dissing him. I talked to the mutual friend and want to have him and the mutual friend patch things up before I move away so that it doesnt lay heavily on my conscience. The mutual friend is willing to meet with me and the ex and discuss this out and try to reconcile the both of them.

 

So, I called the ex tonight to tell him that I had talked to our mutual friend and she was willing to talk to him and discuss why she was not talking to him and maybe work things out with their friendship. The ex was indifferent to me tonight. I dont think he expected to hear from me. I could tell he was waiting for, or expecting a call. We had some small talk and I told him what I had to say about meeting up with his friend and talking out their problems. I told them that I wanted them to clear the air between them because I didnt want to leave thinking that I was the cause of the breakup in their friendship. He told me he was busy and didnt have time for it, but maybe he would do it after the holidays. He said he would call her son. He told me he had been very busy with work and didnt know if he was still going to have a job after the holidays. I told him that I didnt want to meet up with him before I moved away because I didnt have time and he was like "ok". I picked a stupid time to call him because I could tell he was waiting for a phone call. Oh well!!!!

 

The way he was tonight, I personally DONT think we can ever get back together again. He was indifferent, kind of like he was waiting for a phone call and I was bugging him. I dont know how his mom can think he still has feelings for me.

 

I am moving on but I will keep in touch with the mother. For now!!!!

[grace2005]

I hear what you are saying. My ex girlfriend's father likes me alot. Now I don't know if my ex came back because of influence from her father but that certainly is a possibility. He told me that he thought I'm a good man for his daughter. He was waiting for me to ask for his hand in marriage too. We recently broke up again (I was the dumper this time). The reasons for such are for a different thread.

[Dumbass]

Wow....My ex's mom and dad really like me a lot too....I think they might think I am the best one for her, cos my ex had told me that they treat me different than they've treated her other boyfriends, even her ex-fiancee...Every time I go to the house, we always get into huge awesome conversatons, and we have a lot in common (same profession and rather highbrow musical interests as her mom, and dad too!)

 

Her dad and I spoke last week for about 1.5 hours, about business stuff...Getting some of his thoughts on a few things.....I had told him once before that I loved her, so he knows that...and her mom even acknowledged, with a big smile, to my ex that I seemed to be "gaga" over her....

 

During the conversation, he asked me why I would be moving to X location to begin this business venture...I told him, kinda stutteringly, that it was a great place bla bla, but also that I decided there because it was within driving distance to my ex's city (it was originally the plan that I would move to her city and get my own flat, but then we split...But rather than up and moving back to Europe, which I would have done had I not met her, I wanted to stay within reach in case....).

 

He didn't say anything about her or that stuff....I would SO have liked to ask his/their help in, I dunno...helping....but I would have felt so weird and psycho, so I didnt, of course...

 

I'm just putting in input about the topic, but I have to say that although I would have gladly tolerated the heavy heavy burden of her crazy insane baggage, for I did love her - ALL of her...but now that time is passing and the rationale is returning now that the heart's feelings are dying, I have to say that I think I'm gonna be better off without her...