thegamedale Posted December 23, 2005 Share Posted December 23, 2005 Hi, I have already lost my chances with this one girl in my college who said she isnt interested in me, and she is now dating someone else. However i dont want to mess this one up: Theres this girl who lives in 2 houses house behind me in the other street. I hardly EVER see her. I have only saw her twice this year walking to school from a distance. But she is hot! She has been living there for 10 years, but i have never really noticed her as being "attractive", but now she has grown up, she is! How do i go about talking to her and getting her to notice me, i have never spoke to her before. I also dont want to just run outside to speak to her everytime i see her (otherwise she will know straight away i like her). I sometimes see her from my window in the garden. Hope you can help Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted December 23, 2005 Share Posted December 23, 2005 The bottom line is you have to devise a scheme to make contact with her. No one is in any better position to know the details more than you. But, if you know anyone that knows her try to find as much info as you can to get some idea where she may work, what activites she enjoys and where she hangs out. Even an internet search may turn up a little info, mainly pertaining to activites. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thegamedale Posted January 4, 2006 Author Share Posted January 4, 2006 Hey, Ive found out what school she goes, it is a different one to mine. If i see her on the street, should i say "Hey do u go my school, only i havent seen u around?" Is this ok to start up a conversation with her? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 um no i would start the convo more like "hey i havent seen you before, are you new around here? my name is '____' whats yours?" then from there its up to you kid btw how old are you and how old is she? also, i would be walking past her street more often as well, you know around the times she goes or gets back from school, so she can see you more. Then when you got the balls then you can initiate convo. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thegamedale Posted January 5, 2006 Author Share Posted January 5, 2006 Hey, She is 15 or 16 and i am 17. Thats the thing, sometimes i dont have the balls to go up to a girl and speak to her in fear of rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 um how can you be in college if you are 17?missing somethin here anyways if you dont have the balls to talk to her, even though you two dont even know each other, and you just want her right now b/c she is attractive, then i really cant think of anythin else... besides if shes hot she probably has some jock b/f around her age or older i personally find it easier to talk to someone i dont know at all really b/c there is so much more to talk about, i.e what her interests are, hobbies, etc its harder when you are in school with someone and they know your name and probably some tidbits about you. but going back to the point...just go and take my advice, if you want her to notice you, you have to get yourself noticed somehow right? and fear of rejection? whoa slow down right there, i dont think anyone would just go and say yes to a date with some random stranger (well maybe theres a 1% chance) but this isnt about you asking her out right the first time you talk to her. what you're tryin to do is TALK to her and get to know her. what you feel is lust and its normal, but keep it in your pants cause girls arent like pornstars and are just gonna give it (unless they are known sluts in the community, but then you're just exposing yourself to all sorts of wierd shiz). Link to post Share on other sites
Author thegamedale Posted January 7, 2006 Author Share Posted January 7, 2006 Hey, Im living in the UK and we call the last 2 years of High school "college" because it is not compulsory. They we go onto university. So thats why im still 17. I can talk to her, because she walks past my house every morning to go to school. But i dont want her to know instantly that i like her, by just running up to her and talking 2 her if you know what i mean. She goes a different school to me, so she doesent know me. The problem is, i just dont know what to say to her. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 just say "hey you look new around here, i havent seen you b4 whats your name? you from around here?" its casual, doesnt let off that you like her, but you were interested enough to say something. PLUS its true because you dont really know her and you guys dont go to school together. If the convo is awkward, then you dont have to talk to her again and you wont be seeing her in school. as for conversation fodder, i would ask her what school she goes to, how old is she, where she is going (unless its in the morning that you approach her...its obvious shes going to school) and i donno just other stuff. I mean i would approach her during a time that she is coming back from home, so you can talk to her for a few minutes at least. and its gonna be obvious that you do like her when you start talking to her out of the blue. i mean the only real subtle way to talk to a girl is in the work place, a social gathering, or at school during classes. i mean if you dont want to let her know that you're into her, then dont talk to her and just give it up. I dont see the point of talking to a girl that you like but not letting her know that you like her. I mean are you trying to play games with her or something? cause most times girls dont like to play games with guys, they like guys to play their (the girls) games. Link to post Share on other sites
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