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[beachbunny]

This guy I know I like alot and I know he likes me, but I dont think he wants a relationship of just not with me. I accept that to a point. We talk all the time but I havent seen him. For the past couple of weeks,hes been giving off hints or whatever that hes jealous. For instance I told him that his friend called me and we were hanging out and this may sound crazy but at first he acts like he dont care he says its cool, But then he keeps on repeating that he doesnt care. I know he cares cause I can hear it in his voice. But if he is jealous or whatever, then why wont he give me the time of day. My friends say he does like me but is just afraid of getting close to me. I am so confused cause I like this guy alot, he is just so different then any other guy I went out with of met, and I dont want to loose him either way.

[Tony T]

It sounds like he does care about you but for some reason, either fear, personal problems, lack of money, low self esteem, fear he can't live up to your expectations at a relationship level, etc., he doesn't want to go the relationship route.

 

Sure he gets jealous. He may not want a relationship with you for any one of a hundred reasons but he doesn't want anybody else to have you either. This happens all the time.

 

You won't get much out of this guy until you start seeing someone else. That'll smoke him out but, unfortunately, it'll be too late. He'll probably go mad if you do that.

 

You're really wasting time with this dude. I've known lots like him. I know he's really nice and you would probably be great together but as long as he has these hang-ups, the two of you just isn't going to be a happening thing.

 

A lot of your attraction to him currently is because he is a challenge and playing hard to get...unintentionally. Could be if he did ask you out and you started seeing him, he wouldn't be quite what you have imagined.

 

People are lots different in relationships than they are as friends. It's a whole different ballgame.