PAP Posted December 26, 2005 Share Posted December 26, 2005 Well after 3 cruel months after the breakup, she started initiating contact with me through txt messages. I was replying to all her messages sometimes immediately and other times after some hours or a day. The tone from both of us was friendly. On the 24 after coming home late from a party i got a txt message from her at about 5 am! Well i replied as i was curious to know what she wanted. The words from the txt message were a bit mixed up so i assumed that she was drunk. Anyway she told me that this time last year when we were together she was crying as i was going abroad to continue my studies. i told her not to remain in the past and hope for the future. She was remembering the bad times we had and i told her that i remember only our good times. Anyhow she then told me that she was loving me so much when we were together and still does. She then stopped texting as probably she felt asleep. the next day she apologized and told me that she was drunk. This is the first time after 3 months that she tells me that she still loves me. Should i pay no attention to it, it really triggered my hope. Link to post Share on other sites
Zaira Posted December 26, 2005 Share Posted December 26, 2005 Lots of things can and will be said whilst drunk. Some meant, others not. You need to ask her sober what she is feeling, and accept the answer she gives. She may still love you, but that may not mean that she wants you back. Best thing to do is just get on with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted December 26, 2005 Share Posted December 26, 2005 Well after 3 cruel months after the breakup, she started initiating contact with me through txt messages. I was replying to all her messages sometimes immediately and other times after some hours or a day. The tone from both of us was friendly. On the 24 after coming home late from a party i got a txt message from her at about 5 am! Well i replied as i was curious to know what she wanted. The words from the txt message were a bit mixed up so i assumed that she was drunk. Anyway she told me that this time last year when we were together she was crying as i was going abroad to continue my studies. i told her not to remain in the past and hope for the future. She was remembering the bad times we had and i told her that i remember only our good times. Anyhow she then told me that she was loving me so much when we were together and still does. She then stopped texting as probably she felt asleep. the next day she apologized and told me that she was drunk. This is the first time after 3 months that she tells me that she still loves me. Should i pay no attention to it, it really triggered my hope. Alcohol: The great "Liquid Courage." First off, I am sure she probably still loves you and is regretting the breakup. You're in the driver's seat. Think long and hard about what contributed to the breakup and what you can do to improve yourself. You can't change her, she'll have to do that on her own. The words you are looking for from her are: "I'm sorry. I love you, I miss you and I want a second chance. I'm willing to work on whatever I need to do to make this happen." If you get something from her to that effect then you can take it on your terms. Nice and slow. Don't get in a rush to go right back to where you were. I don't buy that she said that "just" because she was drunk. I think she meant it but never have to courage to say it. Let her stew on it. Don't react, whatever you do. Let her come to you naturally. Not sure of the circumstances regarding your breakup but I do see the worm is turning a bit in your direction. Let her make all the moves man, women deeply desire a man they have to pursue, not the other way around. I hate cliches but be a trophy. My ex has initiated contact with me twice this week. Both times two very short sentences. Nothing to build hope on and nothing that one would expect a reply to. She's got a new boyfriend so I just have to wait and see what happens. I too am waiting to hear the same things from her as I mentioned above. Until I do, it's NC. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PAP Posted December 26, 2005 Author Share Posted December 26, 2005 Thnxs a lot Caliguy, After the breakup i have applied all the way no contact except 1-2 times when i just replied out of kindness. it was hard but i think it started to pay off. Not in my wildest dreams i was expecting this kind of message. well i havent told her anything about the message and i am going to go back to no contact or limited contact. I really want her to start the talk about us not the other way around.this is the best course of action you think? Link to post Share on other sites
scruffles2121 Posted December 29, 2005 Share Posted December 29, 2005 Absolutely! I am proud of you for your committment to continue with NC, regardless of her attempting to initiate small talk! Good for you, that should make you feel awesome that she does in fact have feelings for you. If she does in fact want to get back with you, she will have to face the truth of where things screwed up, admit it and be prepared to deal with it, and pursue the next course of action with you. If she does not, oh well, you can rest easy knowing that while she may in fact love you very deeply and care for you, it just wasn't the right thing for either of you. My ex boyfriend still cares very deeply for me, and I feel good knowing that now. While alot of things don't make sense, and i still hope for a reconciliation, I know that there are other experiences to be had. I also know that I am a great person, just not the right one for him at this time. With that in mind, I don't believe he is right for me at this point in our lives. I need someone who is sure of who they are and what they want. Best of luck to you either way, you are doing the right things! Link to post Share on other sites
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