Author riobikini Posted January 4, 2006 Author Share Posted January 4, 2006 Thank you, Elizabeth. Your friendship is welcome, -and reciprocated. I am more than happy that my posts have been a help to you, as well as to others. When many of us enter this forum we are searching for a place that allows us to 'empty out' all the emotions, confusing thoughts, and questions we can't (or don't want to) answer ourselves, or simply can't be as open as we can here, with our day-to-day friends. Sometimes, we just need a fresh new perspective. While everyone has their own unique story, and may be entering LS at different stages of emotional trauma or upset, there is one very distinct thread, (no pun or reference intended), weaving us all together: the emotion of love. Whether our relationship with him/her was long or short-term, acutely painful, semi-expected, or a numb-rendering shock, the often surprising onslaught of emotions has the power to stop us in our tracks, strip us of our confidence, bring us to our knees, and then to, one day, -make us face our true selves. The ache and the difficulty is notably REAL, the journey to our emotional recovery sometimes long and trying...but no less significant for any person. When we leave this forum, after reading or posting, there is little doubt in my mind that the information here is some of the best advice and comforting reassurance that I have ever discovered online. You will be encouraged, enlightened and if you are like me and (I suspect) many others, -your first belly laugh since your breakup will happen here. It can happen. For all those who, at this moment in your heartbreak or recovery stage, believe it is not possible to survive what you are going through, I post to you the following : "Each night, when I go to sleep, I die. And the next morning, when I wake up, I am reborn." -Mahatma Gandhi Every morning is another chance to live -and love- again. You WILL wake up. (Smile) Take care. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 And my radar DOES seem broken, at times. Actually, I'd say your radar for men is working rather well. Just at an unconscious level and in ways your conscious mind would not be pleased with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riobikini Posted January 4, 2006 Author Share Posted January 4, 2006 Thank you for your reply, RR, -and you DO have a point. Sometimes, we'll even try to 'reason' with the radar (I do), -or try to completely ignore its' detection of problems. Equivalent to trying to manually shut down a tripped coded automatic alarm system. We know we don't exactly want to go through life without one, so permanently DISARMING its' detection program isn't an option, instead, in hopes of proving our 'machinery' wrong, we try to DISTRACT it's function, confuse its' signals for awhile. It's just proof that we humans are better-built than we realize and that the answers to our most troublesome questions come from our own internal machinery. (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 4, 2006 Share Posted January 4, 2006 Sometimes, we'll even try to 'reason' with the radar (I do), -or try to completely ignore its' detection of problems. Very true. It's also quite possible btw for the radar to be mistaken and drag our conscious mind along with it... somehow you keep ending up with the same kind of guy, with the same problems, at a level your reason doesn't even detect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riobikini Posted January 4, 2006 Author Share Posted January 4, 2006 RR: I have the answer for that: It's because of specific things I am attracted to in a man, -physically, emotionally, philosophically, and from an intellectual view. If those things are displayed, I react to them. For me, it creates a 'chemistry'. It's just that, with the 'type' I am attracted to, they are often very clever in hiding what lies beneath, at least, for awhile. In some, the 'monsters' take longer than others to appear. One of the monsters is extreme jealousy. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 It's because of specific things I am attracted to in a man, -physically, emotionally, philosophically, and from an intellectual view. If those things are displayed, I react to them. Same here... I've spent a happy year working out what makes this tick and trying to correct it a little Link to post Share on other sites
Author riobikini Posted January 6, 2006 Author Share Posted January 6, 2006 QUESTION: ALL: 1) Of all the positive INNER qualities a prospective partner can have, -what attracts YOU, as an INDIVIDUAL, the most? -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 The size of his wallet and credit limit!!!!!!!!!! Joking aside .. It has to be the ability to make me laugh - A guy could literally laugh the knickers off of me lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author riobikini Posted January 6, 2006 Author Share Posted January 6, 2006 Lishy, (Laughing) Make sure your dates don't have that information, Lishy. If they did, the venue would be a comedy club, I'm sure, instead of a movie! I'm with you on their ability to make me laugh. -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 1) Of all the positive INNER qualities a prospective partner can have, -what attracts YOU, as an INDIVIDUAL, the most? Passion and enthusiasm Link to post Share on other sites
Author riobikini Posted January 6, 2006 Author Share Posted January 6, 2006 RR, Hmmmmm. A love and a zest for life. Yes! -that works. Definately goes on the list. (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
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