Will I get my 2nd chance?

[gordon_gc]

Am i doing the right thing ? Isn't it the question everyone keep asking him/herself around this forum ? That is the question I am asking myself at the moment.

 

Let's keep story short:

- I have been w/ a girl for 13 months.

- She broke up 1 1/2 months ago because she neeeded space, felt suffocated.

- For a month after we broke up, I kept contact with her, did a lot of mistakes, said a lots of silly things to try to get her back.

- Last 10 days, I decided to shut down all communication and apply strict NC.

- During that time, she tried to contact me 8 times.

- For Xmas, I got in touch with her again to send my wishes. She replied back pretty much instantly.

- 24h later (last night), she called me 3 times. This time, I answered. We talked for half an hour about random stuffs. What we have done, How we have been, work, sport. Nothing about our relationship or anything frustrating. She told me her work isn't that great but at least, she is safe there. She told me she is sad and felt apaprt from a lot of things regarding her friends. Indeed, her best friend is moving down to Sydney in 3 weeks time. She also told me she feels like she is different from all the other friends she has (In some way, she feels lonely). She also told me she had to make a decision about what she would do with her apartment...probably moving in with a random since her best friend is going away. She also have a friend she could go with but she is into drugs and she doesn't want to get involved with this.

 

My point is, I know, she, in some ways, feels lonely and will feel even more lonely. In any ways, I do not want to be the spare wheels from which she will get a social support until she is building a new network of friends. But I also know that she will be in a weak position and most importantly a time of change in which I have my chance to show what I am now and what we can be. Moving in together? I would consider it even though I know that will go really fast.

 

What do you think I should do ? Do some more NC and risk her to find the affection she will need somewhere else ? Or stick around for a bit by staying in touch ? I know she is not a bad person. She is just one of these girls who thought she could proove to herself she can be independant. (I know she is, she didin't need to proove it to me). She wanted to live the big life but now realise the big life doesn't really worth it.