Misery Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 So I work with this girl, who’s last week at the job is this week. She is always telling me how she needs a boyfriend, and that she wants one so bad, and how she cannot find the right guy, etc. She always seems to be making some sort of contact with me, whether it is coming up to ask me a question and getting real close, or rubbing up against me, etc. Or she will be singing my name to a tune of a song lol. One of her friends from work came up to me the other day and asked if I had a girl friend, and if I was dating anyone, or interested in someone. Now, I will second guess myself till I am blue in the face, I am stupid I know, so is she really interested or just looking for attention from me. Does she just want reassurance that she is attractive enough to get a boy friend (i.e. always telling me she needs a boyfriend)? Even though it may seem as easy as just asking her out because she is leaving the job soon, word travels quick in the work place, and I do not want to have to deal with making the wrong decision and end up having co-workers rip on me about it. :/ Sometimes it seems as though she is really interested, then trying to make me jealous... I dunno lol Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 Sometimes it seems as though she is really interested, then trying to make me jealous... I dunno lol And you never will know unless you do something about it. Ask her out - she's sending the right signals. Who cares what the poeple at work say about it. People in workplaces always gossip and always will. If you don't rise to the bait they'll move onto the next thing in no time. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 um learn to have co-workers rip on you about it, b/c if your gonna have a relationship that formed from work...well its a no brainer that if you two hook up or not, the work scene gossip will be focused on you two. Even if you fail, who cares? no one else tried to hook up with her in your work area, so they have no reason to make fun of you for failing. I've been in this situation before and yes it ironically also happened at the place i worked. When a girl is being that attentitive to you its obvious that she wants you. if it was just her blurting out that she needs a b/f and all that but making no attempts to hook you in (i.e: touching, flirting, etc) then its just her needing a shoulder to cry on about her problems. But b/c of all the physical interaction you're having with her, its quite apparent that she wants you to take it further. She's taken it as far as she can in her own mind, and now is questioning why you aren't takin the steps to make her your g/f. When she had one of her friends ask about ur relationship status, its more for her to answer why YOU HAVEN'T TRIED TO GET WITH HER! oh and why is she leaving her job? Link to post Share on other sites
SmoochieFace Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 Forget the *signals*... she should just come out and say it instead of putting on this *beating around the bush* act. Why is this so difficult? Link to post Share on other sites
Lucasarts Posted December 29, 2005 Share Posted December 29, 2005 ^ to the post above: why is it so difficult for the guy to just ask her? because you're both human and are scared of being rejected She's given u the signals, you must do the approaching... She's obviously not the type to just go up to you and ask you out on a date, but shes into you enought to flirt w/ you. Link to post Share on other sites
sparticuss Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Eney meny mino mo? Take your pick at the signals. I have so much trouble with girls who think they understand body language when they understand nothing. At least us guys havethe brains to face up to not understaning it. A few psssibilites 1/ She is interested in you and all you have to do is ask. 2/ Theres another guy aroudn that you don't knwo about and shes using you to make him jealous. 3/ She's "desperate " for a PERFECT boyfriend. And that sure as hell isn't me or you. 4/ She a moaning grizzlebum and she only moaning about lack of boyfriends so she will have something to maon about. All the same signals. All diferent reasons. Take ya pick. Link to post Share on other sites
travellingman Posted December 31, 2005 Share Posted December 31, 2005 Grow a pair and ask her out already. Link to post Share on other sites
sparticuss Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 Grow a pair and ask her out already. That would clarify things heaps. Althoug, if she's a total bitch then he wouldnt be the first guy who's foudn himself facing stalking or harrassment charges for nothing more than asking her out. Link to post Share on other sites
ElizabethH Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 She's giving you hints like I might if I liked a guy :-) ASK HER OUT--If YOU like her. Do you? ELiz Link to post Share on other sites
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