imaqt Posted December 28, 2005 Share Posted December 28, 2005 hi im 24 my bf is 25 i'll be 25 in 2006 and he'll be 26..we've been together since highschool...almost 8 years we now have an 8 month old baby. i am constantly fighting with myself on whether or not i should leave...i already know imma hear it..." why wouldnt he marry you after so long..its cause he's got the cow at home",,,blah blah ive heard it all...but i honestly feel like he has serious issues with marriage...i think he thinks once he gets married he'll feel older i think he'll feel like shackles have been placed on his feet. i dont wanna pressure him but ive already made mentions to his uncle and mom that he'll end up lonely if he doesnt come with it soon. i decided to give him another year if i can (which i doubt) my question is would it be wrong to leave..cause once he's gone i wont have a family just cause i wanted that piece of paper and i dont know if it makes sense.. he says he knows im the one he wants to be with and its not a matter of if he'll get married cause he knows he will its just a matter of when he'll feel like its time..and i feel like ive waited 8 years why should i sit and wait more..im so sad and confused Link to post Share on other sites
Shana Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 If there was not a baby involved you could pack up and leave tonight... that is what I would do - in a heart beat. You know what you want, he does not want it. Do what makes you happy. I have said this a million times. If your not happy leave! Just keep in mind that he will be in your life FOREVER ... because of your baby. So you can stay, be unhappy, but have your "family" in tack or you can go on, find someone your happy with and maybe eventually marry but always have your b/f knocking on the door, whether it is for child support or whatever else will be involved. Again, not so simple with a baby. Link to post Share on other sites
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