Learning a foreign language to impress foreign girls....

[tinktronik]

It's a generalisation for people who typically give self-help advice.

 

It could be my a teacher at my Real-Estate school, named Mr. Appleton, who said, if you ask 50 people a day if they would like to sell their house, in person, and knocking at their door, even if you cant speak English properly you are bound to be successful.

 

The self-help book, Learning to succeed with women, by Ron Louis and David Copeland, if you wont do anything until you are absolutely sure you will succeed you will not go anywhere in life. Do not see any negative outcome as just 'bad', but see it as a learning experience where you can do better next time, and keep trying.

 

I'm sure, virtually every self-help book, seminar, or even any friend, and any religious principle is always going to encourage persistence. Even Jesus would suggest to ask, knock, and seek and imply that as a persistent effort as opposed to a one-shot affair.

 

 

Admiral, I do agree with your Mr. Appleton, about asking over and over again.I too do sales (insurance) and know its easy to get discouraged when you get no,no,no over and over again, but if you keep going you are much more likely to focus on the positive than the negative and be sucessful eventually.And for every no you have more practice for when the yes comes along.Once that yes comes along , the yesses become the normal rather than the exception.

Im not sure if this runs the same with male female relations.For the most part most women are just like men with some subtle differences.I would suggest you find out what you admire in yourself and those you know .Improve those things in yourself ,and look for them in a mate.Dont let your own standards fall,or your standards for someone you would like to be with.If faith is important to you , then you would do well to find a woman that holds those same values.Church is most likely to be a great place for you to find a partner.Be friendly , be yourself, and eventually you will find someone who can find the value in you ,whether others can see it or not. I noticed you decided to get rid of the porn, if it was effecting your life negatively this was most likely a good idea.Did you mention you had a degree in psych? Why have you not implemented that? Just a ? you dont have to anwser it.

I also noticed you said you are living with your parents due to financial concerns, thats not that abnormal nowadays, but it may be a huge reason why you have not developed a relationship. I also noticed your concern that women would be concerned about money, this is ofter due to the ability or inability of a man to help provide for a family , so IMO I dont nessesarily a "bad" thing but just part of the way the world works. There is nothing a race car could accomplish for a "true" relationship that a used car could not . Or a huge pocketbook compared to a average one.

[Admiral Thrawn]

Yeah, my problem is I do not have a *real* job and have too much idle time.

[tinktronik]

Admiral, you say you dont have a *real* job, and too much idle time.If your not satisfied with what your doing, then why dont you tru to find something else?

[Admiral Thrawn]

Admiral, you say you dont have a *real* job, and too much idle time.If your not satisfied with what your doing, then why dont you tru to find something else?

 

I was just venting. When you have had enough dealing with phoney clients who never buy anything, and find that the good clients who do buy are working with other agents, then it seems rather frustrating, especially, when you have not made a deal in over a few months.

 

The reality is, I can not get a better type of arrangement than the one that I have unless I start spending money and going back to school. Where I live, you either have a good trade skill, a profession, or you are working at a McJob - and they are plenty of McJobs around that I dont want. Since I have bad credit, I dont qualify for any loan to go to school, and at the present time, I cant really afford to go to school to improve any skills, and any courses start in September anyway. So, really, I'm stuck here.

 

Now, I could sent out resumes, but I dont know how to write good resumes, so I gave up on it, when I never got any job interviews. So, I just discouraged by the whole process. Maybe, I'll just send out resumes later and just see what happens.

 

In answer to your prior question, the degree I have is a Bachelor degree, but the problem with it is that it is too much up in the air. Unless you have a Masters or Doctorate degree, or a postgraduate college diploma, than that degree is not a real asset, especially a Psychology degree.