So mad I could spit!

[b52srock]

Looking at the newest posts today it must be a day for complaints on ex's and kids!

 

Here's the situation....

This is the week that the kids are with their father during Holiday Break. No biggie except that my daughter's birthday falls during this week. Tomorrow as a matter of fact.

By court order, I am supposed to have her from 9:00 tomorrow morning until 5:00 tomorrow night, and he will have the same next year. A-hole didn't bother to ask me if I had taken the day off to be with my daughter, instead he promised her he'd take her skiing with one of her friends for her birthday. So, if I decide to push things I come off like a b*tch for ruining her plans with her friend.

However, he is now in contempt of court! I'm not going to pursue it, but I have talked with my attorney and he's advised me to at least "threaten" him with hauling his sorry butt back to court. He's been repeatedly picking my daughter up at her friend's houses and not bothering to call me and tell me or ask me.

And to top it all off, he's throwing her a party on Friday night...which is fine...except I'M NOT INVITED! Can you believe this sh*t? I had reminded him a couple of weeks ago that he was going to have to plan her party this year and asked him specifically to please have it on "neutral ground". I also asked to bake her cake, since I've done whatever cake the kids have wanted for their birthdays since day one (Lego cakes, Barbie cakes, even a tornado in a farmyard once!). Not only do I not get to make her cake, he's having the party at his house, where I am not welcome.

I don't know whether to scream or cry.

[Scott S]

So, if I decide to push things I come off like a b*tch for ruining her plans with her friend. However, he is now in contempt of court! I'm not going to pursue it, but I have talked with my attorney and he's advised me to at least "threaten" him with hauling his sorry butt back to court. He's been repeatedly picking my daughter up at her friend's houses and not bothering to call me and tell me or ask me.

 

First, I would commend you for taking your daughter's feelings into consideration.

 

There is a broader issue here, though. From what you've posted, your ex-h is engaging in a pattern where YOUR rights are being infringed upon. If you do not take some sort of action, he will not only continue to do so, but will become bolder & more audacious about it.

 

The only way to stop this is to draw the proverbial line in the sand. Communicate to him that you will not put up with this, & that you are prepared to seek legal redress. Then do so.

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What if they stopped throwing rice at weddings, & threw potatoes instead?

[brashgal]

Could you take the girls skiing instead? I don't know if it is a financial burden, just seems like it would be one way to 'get your way' and not disappoint your daughter.