Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 7 Author Share Posted April 7 27 minutes ago, Acacia98 said: Please block him. We have already established that he has the capacity to send messages that will put you in an emotional tailspin and cause you to regress in your healing. Instead of leaving the door open, shut it firmly and lock it--by blocking him. There nothing to block -we don’t communicate anymore. I feel better today so eh. I’m trying to focus on my career I’m trying to land. Major life milestone. There’s nothing left and I’m not reaching out to him and he has moved on. This entire thing is dead in the water. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 7 Author Share Posted April 7 38 minutes ago, stillafool said: Consider this as "his giant ass" move to help you move on from him. There's really no good reason not to block him at this point since he now has a girlfriend. He is on silent and I feel Better today. He never responded and I’ll never hear from him again. I know that. I was never special enough. I’m just going to focus on landing this amazing job. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 7 Share Posted April 7 21 minutes ago, wanderingthoughts11 said: He is on silent and I feel Better today. He never responded and I’ll never hear from him again. I know that. I was never special enough. I’m just going to focus on landing this amazing job. Good. I do hope this job is what you really want, and not some kind of big jab at him since he evidently has grave misgivings about it being a good situation for you. If that's the case - I do wish you all the best success in getting the position and launching your new career, whatever it may be. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 7 Share Posted April 7 27 minutes ago, wanderingthoughts11 said: He is on silent and I feel Better today. He never responded and I’ll never hear from him again. I know that. I was never special enough. I’m just going to focus on landing this amazing job. Silent? Why are you leaving the door open for someone else's boyfriend? Block him so you can really move on with your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 7 Author Share Posted April 7 (edited) 2 hours ago, NuevoYorko said: Good. I do hope this job is what you really want, and not some kind of big jab at him since he evidently has grave misgivings about it being a good situation for you. If that's the case - I do wish you all the best success in getting the position and launching your new career, whatever it may be. Yea it may look like I’m trying to run away but Nope this is my third attempt at this career at two failed interviews prior to meeting my ex. They told me to come back and try again and they know I will get it. I missed it by .05 points which was a gut punch. I’m really excited I decided to try this again and nothing or no one will hold me back well unless I was married or what not lol and thank you. But I did in fact apply to any job that would fly me around the world immediately when we broke up that may or not be because of that. I interviewed and didn’t get them but man was he upset talking about how awful it sounds and that was amusing to me a bit at the time haha but this job now is not the case at all. I’m excited. Edited April 7 by wanderingthoughts11 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 7 Author Share Posted April 7 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Silent? Why are you leaving the door open for someone else's boyfriend? Block him so you can really move on with your life. Not leaving the door open at all as there’s nothing to be open for. I put hin silent on Easter and haven’t been back to change and don’t feel the need to really at the moment. It’s dead in the water there’s nothing left. It won’t change the outcome at the moment at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 10 hours ago, wanderingthoughts11 said: There nothing to block -we don’t communicate anymore. I feel better today so eh. I’m trying to focus on my career I’m trying to land. Major life milestone. There’s nothing left and I’m not reaching out to him and he has moved on. This entire thing is dead in the water. No offence, but unless you have prophetic powers, you have no way of knowing whether he will attempt to communicate again. Blocking him is a way of protecting yourself in case he does. Communications of that nature have a way of interfering with healing and if you genuinely care about your own well-being, it's good to learn to set stronger boundaries when you're dealing with people who have shown the capacity to disrespect the existing ones (he did that with his comments about your job application). Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 OP, I’m usually not an enthusiast of ex-blocking, but in your case I have to agree with the others. His messages interfere with your well-being and normal functioning. It’s better to block him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 11 minutes ago, Acacia98 said: No offence, but unless you have prophetic powers, you have no way of knowing whether he will attempt to communicate again. Blocking him is a way of protecting yourself in case he does. Communications of that nature have a way of interfering with healing and if you genuinely care about your own well-being, it's good to learn to set stronger boundaries when you're dealing with people who have shown the capacity to disrespect the existing ones (he did that with his comments about your job application). I do care about my own well-being which is why i told him to leave me alone. Problem solved. Him Reaching out wont be an issue as TBH it mostly was one sided. He could care less. So called me marked safe and I stated he is on silient and filed and I will never know he reached out if he did anyway it's like being blocked and I have set up where you get a text stating unreachable lol. It's like phone number grave yard. Hopefully in the next 6 months I will be living in another country anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 (edited) .. Edited April 8 by wanderingthoughts11 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 3 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: OP, I’m usually not an enthusiast of ex-blocking, but in your case I have to agree with the others. His messages interfere with your well-being and normal functioning. It’s better to block him. he is filtered out-- I will never know if he does reach out. Thats how I set it up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 1 minute ago, wanderingthoughts11 said: he is filtered out-- I will never know if he does reach out. Thats how I set it up. So....why not just block? What are you hanging on to? Link to post Share on other sites
Author wanderingthoughts11 Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 (edited) 3 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: So....why not just block? What are you hanging on to? nothing. as i said silent and filtered out so at least this way he will know I am not responding he will not try again if he does. It's just like blocking but more blunt about it lol Edited April 8 by wanderingthoughts11 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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