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I am late 20’s male born and raised in USA and parents are immigrants from Pakistan.  I currently live with my parents because I only make $17-19 an hour and want to save more money while living at home before moving out and I plan to move out in 2 years most likely at 30.  
 

I have no idea what nightlife is like in Pakistan and my parents don’t really seem like they were that social when they were my age.  My family is Muslim and nobody drinks and I do not drink as well but I still enjoy going to bars, clubs, late night sporting events, casinos, and etc.  All my late night outings were in undergrad and grad school before I dropped out.  My parents don’t think anything good happens at night.

Do I even bother trying to ask my parents to let me go out at night or just don’t do anything until I move out and then I’ll be free to do late night outings whenever and wherever I want.  They are okay with day time outings.

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d0nnivain

If you want to be treated like an adult, it's time to start acting like one.   Get your own place.  

You mention dropping out of school.   But you also mention undergrad & grad school.  Presumably you have an undergraduate degree if you got into grad school.  There has to be something you can do to earn more than $19 / hour.   

Perhaps it's time to drop that gym membership you mention in another post to save that money toward rent.  

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ShyViolet
On 4/7/2024 at 5:45 PM, Dude26 said:

Do I even bother trying to ask my parents to let me go out at night or just don’t do anything until I move out and then I’ll be free to do late night outings whenever and wherever I want.  They are okay with day time outings.

I would not be "asking" my parents for permission to do anything at late 20s.  You are an adult and are free to do whatever you want.  If your parents flip out about it and try to not "let" you then it's seriously time to move out.  You shouldn't be living like a child in your late 20s.

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MsJayne

I guess there's a cultural issue here and you're probably expected to respect your parents house rules until you get your own place. I know very little about Pakistan, but I believe it's a dry country so I'm not understanding why your parents think nothing good happens at night, if there's no alcohol involved the chances of doing something stupid are significantly reduced :). Do other young, single people go out at night? Are you hoping to meet women? Are you in line for an arranged marriage, and, if yes, could that be the reason they're keeping you a nocturnal prisoner?

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