Kileyallen Posted April 7 Share Posted April 7 I dated this man for 3 months it’s was intense. We both had deep feelings for each other it ended mutually do to incompatibility . Anyways we went no contact for a month. I got curious and went to his social media account and on accident viewed his social media story. He texted me right after and asked “if I was lurking” ? I responded with “why”, he said “because it said you viewed my story. I responded saying “once”. He then asked me “if I was thinking about him because he randomly thinks of me” . I then asked him if he missed me and still had feelings for me he said yes. He then asked me and I responded saying “yes as well” he said he was surprised. He told me he still had the pictures of in his phone when I asked. He then asked me a week later if I worked the next day ? He knows where I work and my job is a shopping store but there’s another location other than mine. “So responded saying yea I do work tomorrow”. He asked me what time, because he wanted to go in my store to grab some clothes. then told him “if you want to see me just say that, so yea or no”. He responded saying “not while you’re at work”. I was confused why he asked me that? It made it seem like he wanted to come in my store but avoid me ? If that is the case then he could go to another location right ? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 7 Share Posted April 7 Maybe he wants sex and he can't get that if he sees you at work because you're working. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 7 Share Posted April 7 Have you thought of asking him to clarify? Link to post Share on other sites
happyhorizons Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Maybe he wants sex and he can't get that if he sees you at work because you're working. That is QUITE the conclusion^ ??? Maybe, he SIMPLY does not want to BOTHER HER while she is working. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 (edited) 15 minutes ago, happyhorizons said: That is QUITE the conclusion^ ??? Maybe, he SIMPLY does not want to BOTHER HER while she is working. It appears that you are QUITE in need of some remedial reading classes. See how @stillafool used the word "MAYBE" to start her response? This means that she's posing a POSSIBILITY rather than a CONCLUSION Edited April 8 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 Well ... he doesn't want to go into your workplace while you're there. That's a lot of information. If you need more you can ask him to clarify. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 7 hours ago, Kileyallen said: I was confused why he asked me that? Why haven't you asked him that question? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 28 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Why haven't you asked him that question? I did he responded saying “I told you,Not a big deal” We’ve been doing this back and forth communication so I asked him what his intentions were and he hasn’t replied? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 5 hours ago, NuevoYorko said: Well ... he doesn't want to go into your workplace while you're there. That's a lot of information. If you need more you can ask him to clarify. Then go to another location? Why text me and ask me about my work schedule Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 5 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: We’ve been doing this back and forth communication so I asked him what his intentions were and he hasn’t replied? Meh, then just assume he's a time-waster and move along. Who initially broke this off? I don't really understand how things ended due to incompatibility if you had deep feelings for each other. That doesn't make much sense, so what happened there? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said: Meh, then just assume he's a time-waster and move along. Who initially broke this off? I don't really understand how things ended due to incompatibility if you had deep feelings for each other. That doesn't make much sense, so what happened there? Why do you think he hasn’t replied to that message ? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 Ok, I might be wrong here, but it seems to me that he’s being flirty. He told you he was missing you. He asked you about your schedule. Maybe what he meant was, “I do want to see you but not at work, because you’ll be busy, while I want to be alone with you when we meet, on a date, during a lunch together, so that I have all your attention”. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 7 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: Ok, I might be wrong here, but it seems to me that he’s being flirty. He told you he was missing you. He asked you about your schedule. Maybe what he meant was, “I do want to see you but not at work, because you’ll be busy, while I want to be alone with you when we meet, on a date, during a lunch together, so that I have all your attention”. Then he should have just said that. Do you think it’s because he wanted to shop at my store without me being there so that’s why he asked me about my schedule? Because he said he wanted to go in there and get clothes but not see me while I was at work ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 10 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: Why do you think he hasn’t replied to that message ? I don't know. Why haven't you replied to my other questions? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 3 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: Then he should have just said that. Do you think it’s because he wanted to shop at my store without me being there so that’s why he asked me about my schedule? Because he said he wanted to go in there and get clothes but not see me while I was at work ? I don’t know. It’s all conjecture. There could be many different reasons. You haven’t really described his character in any detail. Why did you guys break up in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 1 minute ago, ExpatInItaly said: I don't know. Why haven't you replied to my other questions? We argued a lot about simply things. He claimed that this has been the deepest he’s been in with a woman. He was kind inexperienced when it came to women and dating. I ended up posting something petty on my story a quote on social media saying I can’t wait to lay up with a man when I get one. it was only a quote but he got mad. I posted it cause I thought it was funny. he ended up ghosting me for Valentine’s Day after I posted that quote and then he posted flowers and a card on Valentine’s Day on his social media story saying happy Valentine’s Day. Those flowers and cards ended up being for his mom. Yet why post it on social media knowing that I’m gonna see it and we’re not talking? Then he reached out to me three days after Valentine’s Day saying that we were already arguing and he didn’t wanna make it worse. I told him in those three days that he ghosted me. I started talking a new men and then I moved on we argued a little bit after that and that was it. Until now. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 This all sounds like a lot of immature nonsense, if I am being honest. This isn't your guy, so I would stop wasting time on him. Good relationships with an actual chance at a future look nothing like this. Next. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 3 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: We argued a lot about simply things. He claimed that this has been the deepest he’s been in with a woman. He was kind inexperienced when it came to women and dating. I ended up posting something petty on my story a quote on social media saying I can’t wait to lay up with a man when I get one. it was only a quote but he got mad. I posted it cause I thought it was funny. he ended up ghosting me for Valentine’s Day after I posted that quote and then he posted flowers and a card on Valentine’s Day on his social media story saying happy Valentine’s Day. Those flowers and cards ended up being for his mom. Yet why post it on social media knowing that I’m gonna see it and we’re not talking? Then he reached out to me three days after Valentine’s Day saying that we were already arguing and he didn’t wanna make it worse. I told him in those three days that he ghosted me. I started talking a new men and then I moved on we argued a little bit after that and that was it. Until now. I’m sorry, but… This was the relationship that you described as “intense” and involving “deep feelings”? Judging by your latest description, it looks more like a teenage romance full of petty grievances from both sides collapsing due to lack of trust and substance. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 3 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: I ended up posting something petty on my story a quote on social media saying I can’t wait to lay up with a man when I get one. it was only a quote but he got mad. I posted it cause I thought it was funny. he ended up ghosting me for Valentine’s Day after I posted that quote and then he posted flowers and a card on Valentine’s Day on his social media story saying happy Valentine’s Day. Those flowers and cards ended up being for his mom. Yet why post it on social media knowing that I’m gonna see it and we’re not talking? Why did he post it? Someone could ask you the same question about the "funny" quote you posted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 13 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: This all sounds like a lot of immature nonsense, if I am being honest. This isn't your guy, so I would stop wasting time on him. Good relationships with an actual chance at a future look nothing like this. Next. then, why do we keep doing this back-and-forth pointless communication? why does he still have pictures of us on his phone ? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 9 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: why do we keep doing this back-and-forth pointless communication? Because, if I am being blunt, neither of you is ready for a real relationship. You both have some growing to do and you're playing games with each other because you don't yet know how to behave in relationships. You're both wasting your time on each other and geting little ego boosts when the other engages. It's silly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 16 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Because, if I am being blunt, neither of you is ready for a real relationship. You both have some growing to do and you're playing games with each other because you don't yet know how to behave in relationships. You're both wasting your time on each other and geting little ego boosts when the other engages. It's silly. Do you don’t think he has feelings for me ? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 3 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: Do you don’t think he has feelings for me ? Not really, no. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 2 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Not really, no. Really? That’s crazy Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 1 minute ago, Kileyallen said: Really? That’s crazy Sorry. I just don't see evidence of real feelings from him. You need to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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