Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 8 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Sorry. I just don't see evidence of real feelings from him. You need to move on. The crazy thing is I have been. I’ve been on several dates with men etc. I got curious and went to his instagram and he texted right after asking if I was lurking. I was only curious. That’s how all this started. do you think he’ll text back? I’m kinda embarrassed that I asked him what his intentions were after us texting for some weeks. The fact that he hasn’t texted me back makes me seem like a desperate fool and I’m embarrassed. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 8 Share Posted April 8 2 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: do you think he’ll text back? Maybe, if he is bored or wants attention. You have to understand that even if he texts back, it doesn't mean he has feelings for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 8 Author Share Posted April 8 15 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Maybe, if he is bored or wants attention. You have to understand that even if he texts back, it doesn't mean he has feelings for you. Should I feel embarrassed Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 9 Share Posted April 9 You need to just stop. These games are ridiculous even if you're a teenager. You two broke up and the relationship you had was a hot mess. Be glad it's over and leave it behind you. Do better next time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Oldenuff2know Posted April 9 Share Posted April 9 On 4/8/2024 at 4:08 AM, Kileyallen said: Should I feel embarrassed Don't be embarrassed about being open and honest. It does seem, however, like both of you are playing games. I know there's this whole rule book about who can text when, how long after a date you have to wait, etc., but I think all of that is so stupid and such a waste of time. If you like him, tell him. His response (or lack thereof) will be your answer. Life is too short to play by all these silly games. Just say what you think and let him know you expect the same from him! Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 9 Share Posted April 9 On 4/8/2024 at 4:08 AM, Kileyallen said: Should I feel embarrassed You feel how you feel. If you feel embarrassed stay off of his Instagram. Stop feeding his ego by stalking. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 10 Share Posted April 10 On 4/8/2024 at 12:03 AM, Kileyallen said: then, why do we keep doing this back-and-forth pointless communication? Why do YOU? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 10 Author Share Posted April 10 He said he doesn’t know what his intentions are and he would rather discuss it in person…. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 11 Share Posted April 11 5 hours ago, Kileyallen said: He said he doesn’t know what his intentions are and he would rather discuss it in person…. The two of you can't even communicate easily. Don't date guys where there's poor communication and he doesn't know what his intentions are Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 14 Author Share Posted April 14 Update I met up with him. We got food and talked he was staring at me deeply. We started to to talk about things when he started talking he started to shake ? Which I thought was strange? Anyways I asked him what his intentions were sense he said he wanted to meet up and tell me. He said to possibly get back in a relationship? we ended up leaving and spent more time together. We ended up making out a couple times. He still had me saved in his contacts with a heart next to it. I then asked him what he wanted from me and he switched up and said for “us to be cool, and he wanted nothing from me” . He then asked me what my intentions were I said “for us to be friends”. He then kept asking me if I was sure and if that’s all I want from him? He then proceeded to ask me about my dates and if I kissed the men. I said once but It wasn’t anything serious. I asked him if he cared and he proceeded to say “nope I don’t care your single you can do what you want”. we spent a total of 7 hours together and his intentions were still “idk” he basically said yes but no?? The whole situation was confusing and pointless tbh. Yet I’m happy I went because it confirmed that I was over him. since the meetup it’s been silent from his end. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 14 Share Posted April 14 I don't think he knows what his intentions are at the moment. He may still have feelings for you and is curious about how you are doing, but he may also be hesitant to start things up again because of the previous incompatibility. I mean, you're quote basically made it seem like he wasn't good enough for you and that you were looking for "a man". I don't think most men would appreciate that, even if it was just a joke. Geeze girl, you're then telling him that you just want to be friends? He probably has no clue what do to with all this. What is it about him that after all this you are still interested in him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 14 Author Share Posted April 14 59 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: I don't think he knows what his intentions are at the moment. He may still have feelings for you and is curious about how you are doing, but he may also be hesitant to start things up again because of the previous incompatibility. I mean, you're quote basically made it seem like he wasn't good enough for you and that you were looking for "a man". I don't think most men would appreciate that, even if it was just a joke. Geeze girl, you're then telling him that you just want to be friends? He probably has no clue what do to with all this. What is it about him that after all this you are still interested in him? He hasn’t reached back out it’s been two days Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted April 15 Share Posted April 15 (edited) OP, again what you’re describing sounds like an episode from a bad teenage drama. Why did you even ask him what his intentions were if your intentions were just to be friends? More importantly, why did you make out with him if your intentions were just to be friends? What’s the point of this whole back-and-forth? What do you really want? How old are you guys? Edited April 15 by Gebidozo Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 15 Share Posted April 15 Take some time off, OP. You don't really know how to date and interact with men in a way that will yield positive results for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 15 Author Share Posted April 15 8 hours ago, Gebidozo said: OP, again what you’re describing sounds like an episode from a bad teenage drama. Why did you even ask him what his intentions were if your intentions were just to be friends? More importantly, why did you make out with him if your intentions were just to be friends? What’s the point of this whole back-and-forth? What do you really want? How old are you guys? Why did he kiss me if his intentions were for us to hang out, and that he didn’t know what his intentions were ? Why did he want to meet up with me to discuss his intentions just to tell me he didn’t know in person? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted April 15 Share Posted April 15 Why do you waste so much time on this? I'm sure I've asked you before, but don't you have any hobbies, friends, activities that you enjoy? Trying to figure out "why" some guy you briefly dated, evidently don't really know, and who you are supposedly not seeing anymore does or doesn't do insignificant things is a serious bad use of your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted April 15 Share Posted April 15 You're asking what does he want but he is even unsure about what he wants and is sending mixed signals. So. I think he has you slotted as a backup romance. He's interested but not enough. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted April 16 Share Posted April 16 12 hours ago, Kileyallen said: Why did he kiss me if his intentions were for us to hang out, and that he didn’t know what his intentions were ? Why did he want to meet up with me to discuss his intentions just to tell me he didn’t know in person? Why do you care? He is a cabbage head with zero communication skills and the maturity level of a toddler, that’s why. Ask yourself why are you doing all those things? Why are you so obsessively interested in what he thinks and wants if all you want is to be friends with him? Why did you make out with him if all you want is to be friends with him? How old are you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 16 Share Posted April 16 On 4/14/2024 at 1:44 PM, Kileyallen said: Yet I’m happy I went because it confirmed that I was over him. Glad to see you got your closure so now you can move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 21 Author Share Posted April 21 He started following me on instagram and viewing my stories … 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 21 Share Posted April 21 18 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: He started following me on instagram and viewing my stories … Block him from your Instagram. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kileyallen Posted April 21 Author Share Posted April 21 37 minutes ago, stillafool said: Block him from your Instagram. Ofc I already did that ! I don’t get the point in him doing that Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 22 Share Posted April 22 41 minutes ago, Kileyallen said: Ofc I already did that ! I don’t get the point in him doing that He did it because he felt like it. There may not be anything more to it Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted April 22 Share Posted April 22 7 hours ago, Kileyallen said: I don’t get the point in him doing that What's the point in you even continuing to waste time on this? He's not going to become your boyfriend, you know. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 22 Share Posted April 22 (edited) 13 hours ago, Kileyallen said: Ofc I already did that ! I don’t get the point in him doing that If you had already blocked him on Instagram how did he contact you there? I don't get why you unblocked him. Why are you back to asking questions about him if you are over him? It doesn't matter why or what he's doing. Edited April 22 by stillafool Link to post Share on other sites
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