She had my heart [LONG]

[TheWeakLink]

I’ve been with this girl for a year and eight months

 

I did everything for this girl, treated her like a princess. We were always going somewhere new (for her at least), most of the time I was sharing everything I’ve experienced with her. I would have to say it was a blast; I loved this girl and would do anything for her. I met her family and she met mines, we spent countless days and months together with each others families. After sometime we decided to become exclusive, of course I agreed.

 

The time came when she expressed how much she loved me and appreciates how much I do for her so willingly and vowed to do the same. At the time I wasn’t certain if I did love her so I didn’t say it however in the following months I did express it.

 

Once we became sexually active it was like an addiction the relationship changed drastically. We could not stop going at it, box after box in short time frames. It got to the point where a bulk of 500 had to be purchased. Needless to say it was great.

 

A few months pass and I found out she was flirting with some guy. I asked her about it and she denied any contact, which alone broke my heart. I couldn’t accept the lie and kept confronting her about it. After a while she finally confessed told me about their relationship with him. She told me how she was just friends with the guy and would speak with him for advice and such.

 

I was hurt about the whole deception thing but over time I forgave her only to find out that this issue was far from over. Some time passed and she began to accuse me of cheating and or seeing someone else behind her back. She became so insecure about my doings when we parted. I tried everything to prove my loyalty, only to realize it wasn’t up to me to fix. Day after day I would hear something about me cheating on her. I was so tired of defending myself that I just shook my head in disbelief and kept quiet.

 

I spoke too many who provided advice for me to follow, the answer was so simple yet I was too in love to believe it. Everything she was saying I was doing was what she was doing behind my back. I wasn’t sure of the when or how, so I began to throw a Hail Mary.

 

I would think of how she could possible do it and ask her. “Skip classes”, “skip work” and so forth. Besides that all of her time was basically accounted for as being with me.

I asked her “why am I hearing from one of you friends that you are seeing someone else” she immediately accused me of being with one of her friends and she was a back stabber.

 

Then admitted about her relationship with this guy whose she’s known long before me. How they kiss, touch, plan their life together. I felt like dying, I gave this girl my very best, no games, 100% effort, my love and anything else she needed. I can’t say she didn’t provide anything for me she did a lot; if I wanted food…she would cook with no problem. Anytime I wanted sex, there wasn’t even a time I got a no and to top it off I was just happy with her being there. I’m a really simple guy.

It turned out she was never faithful or loyal to me throughout the entire relationship. I was in love living in her lies while she was stringing me along as her safety net while she desired for others. What keeps replaying in my mind is “Why do this to me? I did nothing wrong to deserve this. I did everything and more”. The more I think about it the more I realize that something was a bit off. She showed no personality really, never had much to say but when she did it was about love or how much fun something is or was.

 

After finally getting the truth I decided it’s not fair for me to continue this, she expressed how a new year is going to start soon and we can fix this, it’s worth saving. Basically trying to tell me what at one time I wanted to hear. I briefly thought about it and once again stood firm with the no. I told her I’m not the one you want to be with, go be with him. She began to throw a fit, then after a few minutes asked if we could still be friends.

 

I looked at her in disgust and said no. From there I took her home and the next day I receive the following.

 

“You said you would tell me when you would, but the phone is off. By the way sex wasn’t what I said it was with you. I wanted more and better. U weren't able to provide

8:51am”

 

“Hopefully somebody would love your baby dick. LOL after awhile it's tiring to constantly put on a show to make you believe I was in it fully. 1 luv. Best of luck.

9:01am”

 

I don’t feel used and I’m not sure why, maybe in a while I feel I gained just as much while being faithful as she did while seeing others.

 

I am hurt, lost, confused, and I’ve gotten used to a lot of things while we were together that I’m not sure how to recapture right now.

 

Help

[Bryanp]

Well you have seen her true character. She is writing you these things because she is angry she could not keep you on a string and angry that you stood up for yourself. She could care less that she put your health at risk for STD's. The bottom line is that she was playing you for a fool. She is a liar, a cheat and a totally dishonest person. You are so lucky to be gone from her. Now find yourself somebody who truly respect and love you. It will be a matter of time before she will try to trick you again to be friends with her. She is a total narcissist. She is very bad news. I wish you luck.

[reservoirdog1]

You're lucky, in a perverse way. You didn't marry her. You can get out of your relationship with that dirtbag with minimal difficulty.

 

Love the comments about your sexual prowess. To quote William Holden in the movie Network: "Why is it that a woman always thinks the most hurtful thing she can say to a man is to impugn his cocksmanship? I gave up comparing genitals back in the schoolyard."

 

She's an immature, selfish, self-absorbed, dishonest, neurotic headcase. But, it's natural for you to be hurt and confused -- you've spent much of the last year and 8 months thinking she was sombody she wasn't. You're mourning the death of somebody who never really existed.

 

You didn't do anything to deserve what she did. I didn't deserve what my serial cheating ex-wife did to me. But life isn't fair -- sometimes it's just "our turn" to get s*** on.

 

Cut her out of your life completely. You're lucky you don't have kids with her -- you never need to see her again. Hang in there... it will get better.

[Citizen Erased]

Whilst I was reading that it was making me sick to my stomach at the thought that any human being could be like that. By the sounds of it that girl is just plain NASTY and will have no hope of ever settling down and starting a family. You are far better to have seen the real side of her now than later when, as reservoirdog1 suggested, you could have had children.

 

I really wouldnt pay any attention to her saying that load of bull sh!!t about her not liking your sex life. Trust me, if a woman wants to have sex THAT much then she enjoys it. I bet you had no headache excuses from her When girls do that it's the only thing they have left and trust me she would feel like the biggest SL!@T right now, hence the messages, its her way of coping with her guilt. Just ignore it. Don't lower yourself to her level.

 

Honestly, the best thing of all wuld to be change your phone number and email, avoid any contact with her whatsoever and go out and enjoy life because you deserve it after being put through that. Its always hard to go back to how life was before your relationship, and wanting to go back to that life is in itself wrong. Don't try to recapture anything from that relationship because it was not real. What you would need is change. Go out with friends to places you haven't been before, go on a holiday (you have earnt it!) just meet new people and have fun because it will be the best thing you can do right now.

 

Good luck to you and I hope you find someone who deserves the love which you can obviously provide, and which many females are looking for. People cant see how fabulous you are until you are out there and meeting others.

 

Good luck darlin

[Weye]

I did everything for this girl, treated her like a princess. We were always going somewhere new (for her at least), most of the time I was sharing everything I’ve experienced with her. I would have to say it was a blast; I loved this girl and would do anything for her.

 

What's sad is that this happens to so many people. Girls walk on nice guys like a marching band on a rainy football field. I'm not saying that you did anything morally wrong by giving this girl all of your heart. But when you treat a girl like a princess, she starts to act like one. Once she knows that you would do anything for her, she will start to take you for granted. When you express your love to her, she'll take it as a sign of spinelessness. You give an inch, she takes a mile. Ever hear the phrase "Nice guys finish last?" Next time don't act like this or the pattern is going to repeat.

[clandestinidad]

I realize you might not want to hear anything from a female right now, but I felt compelled to say some things.

 

I cannot believe how some people have no character/morals/values/honesty, and can go around in this world treating others like that. You said that she had been with him the whole time you were dating?? What trash she is!!!

 

Its disgusting, really...there is something very wrong with her. She is evil. I hope you will believe me at some point, that not all women are as horrible as she is.

 

I wish you all the best, and hope that you are able to heal quickly. Please remember the wonderful things that you did for her, and that when spent on the right type of person you will be rightfully reciprocated. Please dont let her ruin you for other girls who are worth all of your excellent qualities. Conquer over this by learning and growing, and dont change who you are.

 

You really sound like an amazing guy....maybe I could be so lucky one day

 

I wish you all the best during this rough time

[Lucasarts]

i love it, women always gotta degrade a man's dick after a break-up

 

and we are disgusting pigs?

 

psh good move bud, you are better and you deserve it man