-Anonymous Posted April 11 Share Posted April 11 Hi. So there is this girl in my life, we are just friends but we talk sometimes (Online). I kinda have crush on her, I'm sort of convinced that I love her, I sometimes reach peace when I talk to her, When I think about her I see perfection, there is nothing wrong with her in my opinion, Her personality, Her mindset, Her face and body, Her voice, Everything about her is just beautiful and is kinda what I was always looking for. On the other hand I am facing important times of my life, the ones that determine my future and destiny, and It takes about 15 other months of hard work to end, Therefore I can't really lose focus in this time and must become obsessed with my goals as I want to be the best in what I do. But I am afraid that If I stop thinking about her and forget her for this 15 months, When I come back to her I won't be feeling this feeling anymore. What Should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 11 Share Posted April 11 It's not an either or proposition. You can do both. Learn some balance. Ask her out. Continue pursuing your other goals. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author -Anonymous Posted April 11 Author Share Posted April 11 26 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Ask her out. Well it's not technically possible, she is like a 1000 kilometers away from me Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 11 Share Posted April 11 You have the internet; phones, video calls & over the course of the 15 months while you are pursuing your other interest you can probably manage to get to her at least once. It's 1,000 km not 1,000,000. Try optimism. I kept a 3,000 mile NY to LA relationship alive for 2 years before cell phones & the internet. Where there is a will, there is a way. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 13 Share Posted April 13 Is she romantically interested in you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author -Anonymous Posted April 13 Author Share Posted April 13 4 hours ago, basil67 said: Is she romantically interested in you? It's a hard question, There are some signs saying yes, and some saying no. For instance when I'm not around for like a month, she starts asking my friends that why I'm not there, there were few small signs as well that could be mistaken but if they were true there is a high chance that she is, for example once I was talking to her in a private chat about the theory that everyone is actually one person, It's "The Egg Theory" I suppose. And then she said "It would be better if everyone could be 2 people", now I might be delusional but I guess that could be a sign. On the other hand, She said that she doesn't get good vibes when we talk in private chat and asked me to rejoin the group chat we met (which isn't one of those group chats that everyone is trying to f*** each other, we are just a bunch of friends). I also haven't told her about how I feel yet although she probably knows that, but she said that we are like brothers and sisters when talking about something else which is a little heartbreaking. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted April 13 Share Posted April 13 2 hours ago, -Anonymous said: It's a hard question, There are some signs saying yes, and some saying no. For instance when I'm not around for like a month, she starts asking my friends that why I'm not there, there were few small signs as well that could be mistaken but if they were true there is a high chance that she is, for example once I was talking to her in a private chat about the theory that everyone is actually one person, It's "The Egg Theory" I suppose. And then she said "It would be better if everyone could be 2 people", now I might be delusional but I guess that could be a sign. On the other hand, She said that she doesn't get good vibes when we talk in private chat and asked me to rejoin the group chat we met (which isn't one of those group chats that everyone is trying to f*** each other, we are just a bunch of friends). I also haven't told her about how I feel yet although she probably knows that, but she said that we are like brothers and sisters when talking about something else which is a little heartbreaking. I don’t think she likes you. I’d back off and not try anything. She doesn’t like talking with you one on one from the sounds of it and she thinks of you like a brother. That’s a clear sign she’s not interested romantically. Be respectful of that. If you feel you can’t get a grip on your crush or feelings then distance yourself and don’t talk to her as much. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 13 Share Posted April 13 (edited) In addition to what Glows wrote, I think it's a stretch to connect her comment on the Egg Theory with romantic interest. I take it more as her dismissing the premise Edited April 13 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted April 13 Share Posted April 13 N 9 hours ago, -Anonymous said: She said that she doesn't get good vibes when we talk in private chat and asked me to rejoin the group chat we met .. Dude, if she doesn't even want to talk to you privately, there is no way she's romantically interested in you. Zero chance. Sorry. There are women around you. Go and meet them. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted April 13 Share Posted April 13 And you can find highly motivated and academically serious women around you. So there is no tradeoff between dating and studying. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 14 Share Posted April 14 22 hours ago, -Anonymous said: , She said that she doesn't get good vibes when we talk in private chat and asked me to rejoin the group chat That is a pretty bad sign. If she won't talk to you in private & you have never met, it's highly unlikely that she's interested in dating you. You don't even really know her. You can't possibly love her although you may have a crush on her. She's hardly perfect. You need to be more realistic. Perhaps date locally. It will be so much easier. Link to post Share on other sites
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