Evilangel8998 Posted April 23 Share Posted April 23 My gf cheated on me, I fought for the relationship and then we patched up, but now I cannot still forget about it. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 23 Share Posted April 23 Fighting to save a broken relationship isn't always the best option. There's no shame in walking away from your gf Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted April 23 Share Posted April 23 1 hour ago, Evilangel8998 said: My gf cheated on me, I fought for the relationship and then we patched up, but now I cannot still forget about it. You cannot forget, or you cannot forgive? Nobody asks you to forget, that would be impossible. Have you truly forgiven her? Is she being remorseful? Has she worked on her issues? Are you certain she won’t cheat again? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted April 23 Share Posted April 23 5 hours ago, Evilangel8998 said: My gf cheated on me, I fought for the relationship and then we patched up, but now I cannot still forget about it. How long have you been dating? How did you find out about the cheating? Why give her a free pass if you can't get over it? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 23 Share Posted April 23 You were wrong to fight for the relationship. You are not over it & you will never be. Give up Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 23 Share Posted April 23 I get it you are so in love with them you would stop at nothing to get them back...typical reaction. Now that they are back, you are out of that stress and left with what they did to you. They why they did it, how could they do it, do they love you enough?, How could you ever trust them, they could do it again. If you want out of those feelings you both have to really sit down and talk about the how's and why's, speak your peace...then forgive, go forward. I now many couples that survived infidelity. Their relationships ended up being stronger than ever because they learned to communicate better with each other to solve all those issues they had. They learned to be supportive of each other and more observant to each others needs and wants/feelings etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Evilangel8998 Posted April 25 Author Share Posted April 25 On 4/23/2024 at 9:45 AM, Gebidozo said: You cannot forget, or you cannot forgive? Nobody asks you to forget, that would be impossible. Have you truly forgiven her? Is she being remorseful? Has she worked on her issues? Are you certain she won’t cheat again? I forgave her, now we are together but those moments still keep haunting me and every now and then it keeps popping up and I’m getting frustrated and irritated on her randomly but the true reason behind is this. And I’m still scared this might happen again. Because it did not happen once or twice but multiple times. Now I’m wondering if should I take a break or continue with the relationship and work on myself to move past behind this. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 25 Share Posted April 25 This keeps haunting you because it was not a one time thing. You are right to be concerned it will happen again. If you want to continue with the relationship you BOTH have to work on it. Since she cheated, she needs to be working harder to allay your fears. That does mean you have to tell her you are having them. If she gets defensive or does anything other than be reassuring or transparent, then you have a problem. She may not be as all in as you need her to be. In that case you have a choice: continue to be suspicious & on edge or break up. There is no such thing as a "break". You don't take time off from a relationship. You can take some space to back off from a heated situation so you have time to cool down but that is a few hours. If you need more than that it's a break up. Link to post Share on other sites
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