gordon_gc Posted December 30, 2005 Share Posted December 30, 2005 I have a quick question that came out from the situation I am in. My gf broke up with me almost 2 months ago now. We had a bit of tension the few weeks after the separation. I tried to show her I still loved her, etc..etc.. Recently, we made contact again and everything went alright. We talked about lots of basic and fun things...a real enjoyable time on the phone. The next day, she texted me sort of relly flirty messages and since then, she is totally silent. Can you please tell me what is going on in her head ? What should I do ? I don't mind playing the game as I really would like to give eachothers a second chance but I don't know if that is useful. I am waiting for your suggestions whether you are a Dumpee or Dumper. Link to post Share on other sites
dahlia Posted December 30, 2005 Share Posted December 30, 2005 Hi. I don't know if I can be of much help, but, my ex dumped me two mths ago. I was/still am devastated. He only tried to call me about a mth and a half after he left.. Luckily I didn't pick up b/c he left me a few messages and they were all just businesslike. Then on Xmas eve he called again. I had had a few cocktails, so I picked up. He was nice, talked about the dog we had shared together, telling me I should come and see the dog. He now lives two states away, so that really isn't a possibility for me. He said how great his life is going and that he wants to be friends. So, ever since that call I have been really down. Sometimes I think he was just feeling me out, to see if I would cry, or beg him back. All of which I wanted to do, but, he left me and if I would beg him to come back, he wouldn't be coming back to me b/c he wanted to. I also have a real curiosity as to whether he does have a new girlfriend or if that was just a lie to get me jealous. I have read on a variety of breakup sites that people say these things to get their ex's jealous. Oh well, I don't know. My ex says he wants to remain friends, but, I just can't do that. I am not sure if he said that b/c he really hurt me and he figures that a way to get back in as my bf again, or if he really thinks we should be better off as friends. He had always said that he doesn't believe in ex's being friends b/c you can never go back there. Now he is the one wanting to be friends, so it makes me wonder. He has not called back since xmas eve. Who knows if he ever will. I think when they want to be friends it's either b/c they want to stay in your life for a second chance down the road, or b/c they want you there to get advice from b/c they valued your mind and insights, and then we will be there when they need advice about their new bf/gf. So.......I could never be that! I would be more hurt than I am right now. Hope this helps a bit, and maybe others can tell us what they think Link to post Share on other sites
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