hlrmlovergirl Posted May 8 Share Posted May 8 Hello! first time poster. I recently started dating after taking a long period of being single post long term break up. This is my first time navigating the dating field as a late 20's/early thirties person. I recently met someone on a dating app ( which I do not prefer btw). We have been on three dates so far, but have been talking for a little over a month. they work in a very demanding field so their schedule is all over the place. I do see this person as someone I can be with long term but at the same time don't want to rush things. I do have a few hesitations in trusting this person so I wanted some advice on how to navigate. Though they are very honest and upfront with me on things, they update their dating profile pretty frequently, but state that they are not going on dates and want to be exclusive. Do people update their profile for fun or just to get likes, or do you think this person is just lying. I don't want to be naive. any and all advice would be helpful! Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted May 8 Share Posted May 8 Generally the reason people update their profile is because they are looking to get more attention. A lot of people on apps multidate so they often will be talking to several potential dates at once. It's just the way it is on the sites. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted May 8 Share Posted May 8 There are good people online but a huge amount of players. I beleive this one is. The only reason online daters add new pictures it's to attract new prospects. At the same time you said you're not in a hurry, anyone would interprete that as you're dating around so why wouldn't they? By the way be truthfull to yourself. You say you're not in a hurry but you worry after 3 dates. There is nothing wrong with looking for a serious dater & especially sexual exclusivity. It does not mean marriage, it means you date one person at a time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 9 Share Posted May 9 10 hours ago, hlrmlovergirl said: they update their dating profile pretty frequently, but state that they are not going on dates and want to be exclusive. You have been on 3 dates with this person. You do not know them well enough to be saying that you could see being with this person long term or want to be exclusive. You are overthinking and getting ahead of yourself. At only three dates, this is not a relationship. It's a person who you are still getting to know. You shouldn't be expecting exclusivity or worrying about whether their dating profile is still active. It's perfectly normal for it to still be active when you barely know this person. If you like them, just get to know them better and then you will find out whether there is actually potential for a relationship here. Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted May 10 Share Posted May 10 On 5/9/2024 at 1:09 AM, hlrmlovergirl said: Hello! first time poster. I recently started dating after taking a long period of being single post long term break up. This is my first time navigating the dating field as a late 20's/early thirties person. I recently met someone on a dating app ( which I do not prefer btw). We have been on three dates so far, but have been talking for a little over a month. they work in a very demanding field so their schedule is all over the place. I do see this person as someone I can be with long term but at the same time don't want to rush things. I do have a few hesitations in trusting this person so I wanted some advice on how to navigate. Though they are very honest and upfront with me on things, they update their dating profile pretty frequently, but state that they are not going on dates and want to be exclusive. Do people update their profile for fun or just to get likes, or do you think this person is just lying. I don't want to be naive. any and all advice would be helpful! Ye I don't like that when they do that and it's usually a deal breaker for me Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted May 10 Share Posted May 10 On 5/8/2024 at 5:09 PM, hlrmlovergirl said: Hello! first time poster. I recently started dating after taking a long period of being single post long term break up. This is my first time navigating the dating field as a late 20's/early thirties person. I recently met someone on a dating app ( which I do not prefer btw). We have been on three dates so far, but have been talking for a little over a month. they work in a very demanding field so their schedule is all over the place. I do see this person as someone I can be with long term but at the same time don't want to rush things. I do have a few hesitations in trusting this person so I wanted some advice on how to navigate. Though they are very honest and upfront with me on things, they update their dating profile pretty frequently, but state that they are not going on dates and want to be exclusive. Do people update their profile for fun or just to get likes, or do you think this person is just lying. I don't want to be naive. any and all advice would be helpful! The fact they are seeing you and updating their profile while doing so would worry me a bit in the sense that they may be seeing other people and if I were you I'd want to determine this before going further. It would seem being upfront is in fact very limited in that sense. One thing that is true of all people is the need to communicate and here I would simply ask the other person and the response will be quite telling in terms of the tone it is delivered and the body language that accompanies it. Be aware though communication may suddenly end so you need to prepare yourself for this possibility. Link to post Share on other sites
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