FredEire Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 1 hour ago, ZA Dater said: It would seem so but again OP should not be tolerating this in my opinion, if he was really attracted to her he would want to spend time with her. Again actions are not aligning to words. Though on some level the OP does find him attractive and its only human when you find someone attractive to perhaps not see what you do not want to see. I agree. Confusion = who you want the person to be vs who the person really is. It's why so many bad relationships are characterised by confusion. The person in your head doesn't align with the person in the real world. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 2 hours ago, FredEire said: I agree. Confusion = who you want the person to be vs who the person really is. It's why so many bad relationships are characterised by confusion. The person in your head doesn't align with the person in the real world. It's a very bad situation even when it's it's business and with friends in general. I do believe people can change to a degree but in this scenario it would seem this guy is fairly indifferent meaning the OP would need to compromise even more to get some of his attention. Not something which is good in my view but I think it happens a lot in life in general. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 23 hours ago, Runninggirl said: Yeah he gets a lot of attention, always girls flocking when Ive met him. You always go for this type and then you wonder why they don't show more interest. Those guys have more options than they know what to do with. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 11 Share Posted June 11 On 6/10/2024 at 7:06 PM, Runninggirl said: What I dont get is why he would cancel possibly without any good reason (walking alone for hours?) Maybe "alone" has a pretty face and good sense of humour and he wanted to get to know "alone" on a long walk. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted June 12 Share Posted June 12 OP ultimately you need to decide if you accept this person as they are perhaps you may get a casual physical relationship because it would appear this is what interests him the most. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Runninggirl Posted July 1 Author Share Posted July 1 I stayed completely clear of him. And it was a good choice. Not a single text, nothing. I then found out he went on vacation with his ex and his reason for suggesting the day after must have been because he was in a hurry to see me before leaving. He’s trying to hide her, but someone else told me lol. Link to post Share on other sites
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