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im 15. my parents are divorced and I stay with my dad during breaks and a few weekends out of the year. (not by choice) summer break just started, for me at least, and im staying with him now. his girlfriend is here most of the time too or sometimes im at her house since it's only a few houses down. I like her and it's actually nice having her around. she's chill. it feels like she's my friend more than my dad's girlfriend most of the time. but she makes me feel so awkward and uncomfortable sometimes. I just want to know if im justified to feel this way. ill just try to explain what I mean now.

yesterday she asked me if I ever had a girlfriend. I said "yeah in 7th grade and 8th grade. I don't think that anything before middle school counts." she responded, "7th grade and 8th grade, that's the zenith of puberty. did she have boobs?" I started laughing, and I said "what are you talking about, man? I don't wanna talk about that." she dropped it pretty quickly after I made her aware of the fact that I was uncomfortable. so I guess it can just be brushed off as the fact that were opposites physically speaking, and she was just trying to think of what someone else my age would want to talk about. (I told my mom I felt a little awkward being around her sometimes without actually telling her what happened and that's what she said)

but it's confusing because she's funny and outgoing, not awkward at all as far as I can tell. so I don't know why she would say that out of all things. later on in the conversation, she said "you look like your dad, you know that? you're just the younger, cuter version of him" I said, "yeah, I know. my mom tells me all the time. she hates it" and she responded, "well I love it" and she started rubbing my chest. the whole conversation was just awkward. especially the way she kept complimenting me every 5 seconds.

then earlier today she asked me to put lotion on her legs and rub it in for her because she was too tired to. she's asked me to do this a few times and it felt a little weird at first but I got use to it. but now I feel weird about it all over again. it's not that I don't want to do it or that I think that im "too cool" or "too good" to do it, according to her when I don't want to do it. I just feel like I shouldn't be doing it. it's something my lazy older sister would've made me do for money when we were (younger). but I guess it feels different when it comes to her because we're not family by blood.

one of the times that she asked me to put lotion her legs for her, I did it, and then I went to lay in my bed after. she left and I was in bed watching tv for maybe 5 minutes. then she walked back in my room and got in my bed with me while she still had her towel on. she laid her head on chest and started drawing outlines on my stomach. I was too uncomfortable to say anything, and even now I don't know what I would've said. she comes in my bed and cuddles with me a lot while im here. I don't mind it, but every time my dad comes home she moves away from me and sits at the edge of my bed instead.

I asked her why she moved every time my dad came home because I started questioning if it was weird for us to be cuddling. and she said that it's because she "wants to be closer to the door when he comes in". plus my dad's "a jealous man". I still feel weird about it. anytime my dad comes home now my immediate reaction is to move away from her too.

we call and text each other a lot. it's usually just conversations about my dad, tiktok, celebrity drama, etc. but every once in a while, randomly during one of our phone calls, she'll ask me if I think that she's pretty, what do I think is pretty about her, what im wearing, is my door closed, what I wear when I go to sleep, what do I think that she's doing. I just awkwardly answer the questions because I don't know what else to do or if she's just messing with me. after a few incidents of her asking questions like that, I asked her during our next phone call why she was doing it and I told her that it ruined the call with awkwardness.

and she laughed at me and told me to stop making things so weird. so I do feel silly for not treating them and looking at them like innocent questions. but my mind has never went there with my dad's ex girlfriends. I could go on and on about weird encounters ive had with her, but just typing this is starting to make me feel uncomfortable. a lot of them are based on how she looks at me or the way she does things anyways. I don't think they're valid reasons for me to feel uncomfortable around her since it's just my perspective. I like her, and I like that she doesn't treat me like a little kid, I just think that maybe she takes things too far sometimes? am I just making innocent conversation and gestures weird?

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basil67

Yet another old creeper with young person thread?  

If this is actually a serious thread, I suggest you show both of your parents what you've written here.  They are the ones who should be advising you

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Just now, basil67 said:

Yet another old creeper with young person thread?  

If this is actually a serious thread, I suggest you show both of your parents what you've written here.  They are the ones who should be advising you

no??

why would I show my parents? 

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9 minutes ago, bobsburgers said:

no??

why would I show my parents? 

OK, another fake thread.  Got it.

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5 minutes ago, basil67 said:

OK, another fake thread.  Got it.

oh okay. sorry.

you answered my question without even answering it I guess.

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