Am I wrong?

[rozlyn]

I've been with this guy for over 6 months and I have a problem that's not really getting resolved. This has happened twice now. The first time-he left at 10ish pm to get cigarettes at the store. A few hours go by and I'm wondering what is up, so I call him and there's no answer. He calls me back at 4 in the morning saying he is at the mother of his child's house "dealing" with their daughter. I'm upset and tell him I'm not ok that he left me hanging like that for that long and wtf? So he said he's on the way back buy then doesn't show up fit 2 hours. I call him and he says he didn't come back right away cause he didn't understand why I would be mad. He said he didn't do anything wrong so he doesn't know why I'm so upset. Then just yesterday at 7am, he's out the door just as I wake up and said he was going to move a trailer and to "wait right here, I'll be back shortly." Well 1pm comes around and I haven't heard from him. I find out the trailer is still there, I call him and he doesn't get back to me for 2 hours. To be honest I was yelling and really upset. He tries to calm me down but we had just had a huge discussion on not doing things that create doubt or mistrust. And I felt he lied to me and left me hanging. I find out he's at a family friend's house fixing a car as and trying to sell a motorcycle. This person is a younger chick. It seems weird to me that he would be over that long at this person's place. But supposedly she has a bunch of things she is trying to sell cuz her grandma died. K, I get that...but why didn't he call me to say there's a change of plans? So he does the same thing where he says he's on the way home but hours go by. It ends up being like 10 hours he is over there. I was being really nasty on the phone but I really felt like I was being lies to/disrespected. I feel like his behavior is inappropriate and is making me feel like I can't trust him. I told him this. But he says he wasn't doing anything "wrong" but I feel like that's not the point. I don't think he is cheating on me. But it's not OK and I think most ppl would not be OK with that. So I don't know why he thinks it's OK. Any advice? I really like him and we get along well. Very intimate but I don't understand this.

[Gaeta]

1 hour ago, rozlyn said:

The first time-he left at 10ish pm to get cigarettes at the store. A few hours go by and I'm wondering what is up, so I call him and there's no answer. He calls me back at 4 in the morning saying he is at the mother of his child's

Why didn't you breakup with him right there?

This is highly disrespectful and it's only been 6 months dating, can you imagine how shitt$ he'll treat you after 1-2-5 years ? Why are you dating this punk!

By still dating him you're telling him it's ok to treat you like cat food. 

Edited May 16, 2024 by Gaeta

[Oldenuff2know]

I agree with Gaeta. You're telling him it's okay to disrespect you, hang out all night/hours on end with his baby mama and other younger girls with little regard for your feelings and absolutely no repercussions from you other than getting yelled at for a little while. When someone shows you who they are (repeatedly), believe them.