do you think he will come back?

[notyouraveragebabe]

On 5/26/2024 at 5:51 PM, happyhorizons said:

Hopefully, you will find some semblance of closure and of course get your gear back.

He dropped my stuff at my door and sent a text. 
“I left your stuff at your door”

it was neatly organized and he left a note 

“I am really going to miss you”

”take care” 

signed his name 

why would he leave that note? When I went no contact is when he decided to drop off everything. 

[basil67]

He left the note because he will miss the good days.  He left you because he needed to escape the bad days.  

[notyouraveragebabe]

1 hour ago, happyhorizons said:

WOW this is right on ^^…. You were just too much for him and he wants someone new and different (less volatile)

He wants a response from me. I know him enough to know that hes seeking a response. He packed his bag so many times and left my house and walked right back when I told him to stay. He wants a response. 
 

he put the note with our picture. A card I wrote to him last year stating “can’t wait for more adventures in 2024” also, with a souvenir he bought me last year but forgot to give it to me until now. 
 

I think I’m over it now. This cycle will continue . I want peace. Or maybe I’m wrong, he just wants peace too. 
 

there were a lot of good days too. I will definitely miss that, but we cannot fight peacefully and it’s too much for us both. 
 

im closing this door . I am positive someone else will be out there for me who will bring me peace. For now, I’m at the gym and will continue to focus on my inner self so I’ll be ready for the next guy. 

[NuevoYorko]

1 hour ago, notyouraveragebabe said:

im closing this door . I am positive someone else will be out there for me who will bring me peace. For now, I’m at the gym and will continue to focus on my inner self so I’ll be ready for the next guy. 

Good, but please don't expect someone to bring you peace.  Your volatile behavior is your problem and it won't go away just because you get a different boyfriend.  You really do need to work on that.

A relationship with a person who is looking for peace is not going to have ANY character attacks involved.  

 

[notyouraveragebabe]

2 minutes ago, NuevoYorko said:

Good, but please don't expect someone to bring you peace.  Your volatile behavior is your problem and it won't go away just because you get a different boyfriend.  You really do need to work on that.

A relationship with a person who is looking for peace is not going to have ANY character attacks involved.  

 

No one can bring anyone peace. Life is filled with ups and downs and you have to find the right person that will ride life with you through them all. The only peace you can get is within yourself. 
 

I had my moment of being rude with him, but believe me he also was chaotic at time. I’m glad it’s over. 
 

peace and love everyone ! 
 

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, notyouraveragebabe said:

im closing this door . I am positive someone else will be out there for me who will bring me peace. For now, I’m at the gym and will continue to focus on my inner self so I’ll be ready for the next guy. 

Good for you that you're taking care of your body.  It would also be a good idea to seek therapy for your volatile behavior before you go on to the next guy so this doesn't happen again.

[notyouraveragebabe]

34 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Good for you that you're taking care of your body.  It would also be a good idea to seek therapy for your volatile behavior before you go on to the next guy so this doesn't happen again.

I said I’m working on my inner and outer self at gym 

[notyouraveragebabe]

37 minutes ago, happyhorizons said:

Hopefully, he will find someone to appeals to him mind, body and soul. Very few people want to live in mean spirited relationships that contain hurtful words and actions.

I wish him the best. 

[basil67]

Glad to hear that you're taking care of your body.  Are you still going to seek therapy (or at least a book) about how to have a disagreement without becoming volatile?    It's such an important skill to have if you want a functional relationship

[notyouraveragebabe]

1 hour ago, basil67 said:

Glad to hear that you're taking care of your body.  Are you still going to seek therapy (or at least a book) about how to have a disagreement without becoming volatile?    It's such an important skill to have if you want a functional relationship

Yes as I mentioned therapy, and gym, talking to friends, getting closer to family. 

many people fight and become hostile I am not the only person in the world doing this. 
 

I owned up to my mistake and apologized and I’m pretty disciplined with my fitness, career, education and everything I have. I am grateful and positive I can succeed and get through this difficult time.
 

That same discipline I have in life I am positive I can apply it towards therapy and healing. Mind over matter 💪🏽✨

[notyouraveragebabe]

Just now, notyouraveragebabe said:

Yes as I mentioned therapy, and gym, talking to friends, getting closer to family. 

many people fight and become hostile I am not the only person in the world doing this. 
 

I owned up to my mistake and apologized and I’m pretty disciplined with my fitness, career, education and everything I have. I am grateful and positive I can succeed and get through this difficult time.
 

That same discipline I have in life I am positive I can apply it towards therapy and healing. Mind over matter 💪🏽✨

Thread closed. 

[assertives]

Are you always like that when you fight or only to him? Cos I was just thinking that sometimes the wrong person would bring out the worse in us. Something to consider at your next relationship.