Can We Save Our Relationship and Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?

[Bil]

I (20M) have been with my girlfriend (20F) on and off for a year. We broke up a few months ago because I cheated on her by sending and receiving nudes. She found out and broke up with me. I deeply regret what I did, and since then, I haven't texted any other girls.

However, when we broke up, she started texting others and posting pictures of herself. These weren't just normal pictures; they were full-body pictures in dresses for other men to see. It really hurt me, but she came back and wanted to give us another chance. She said she only did it because she had never taken back someone who cheated and was just trying to move on, but couldn't because she missed me and still loved me. So, she wanted to give us a chance.

We are both struggling to make it work because we both have trust issues. Most of our arguments stem from her not listening to me immediately when I ask her to do something. For example, when I tell her to go home immediately when she is out because I'm worried for her safety, she asks why. This makes me so mad that I cuss at her, and then she cries. But it all wouldn't happen if she listened without questioning.

I don't know what to do. She is really hurt and has depression. I want to support her and be there for her, but I'm scared I'm just healing her and building her up for her next man. I want us to be good like before, and I want to marry her one day. Additionally, her whole family hates me for what I did to her, and they made her choose between me and them. That's also a main reason we broke up, because she didn't want to lose her family.

She is going to therapy and wants me to go to therapy with her, but I don't see why we should go together when, in my opinion, the only problem is that she needs to listen to me. I told her I could give her the world if she only did what I asked her to.

Could you guys please give me advice on what to do? I don't want to look back in the future and regret making the wrong decision.