He tried to take my phone

[Kileyallen]

So I recently had a causal situation with this guy. He’s a bit older than me but he is fun. Anyways I went into the situation with it being just fun and casual. He’s very flirty and touchy anyways we went out three times. The third time we had s*x after we did it he seemed super quiet. I was being sarcastic trying to lighten the mood he seemed annoyed he even jokingly told me to get out. so I said I was going to leave. He said okay ? So I called my ride because I didn’t want him taking me home knowing where I lived. 

He sat across of me and kept telling me “he didn’t want me to go home, and that he wished I could stay longer. I told him I had to leave, he then got up and sat right next to me and started kissing my forehead and hugging me. I put my phone face down and he asked me why I was being secretive? I told him I wasn’t , then he proceeded to ask me to see my phone ? I thought he was playing until he started to teach for my phone I was in shock .

He kept telling me he needed to see my phone to make sure my ride was coming to the right house ?? I told him no. He then got up and sat across from me again and started talking to me. I didn’t hear him and asked him to repeat what he said? He said “nope I’m good whoever your texting is more important than what I have to say” 

My ride ended up coming he asked me for a kiss and told me to text him when I got home. The next day he called me twice I tried to call him back but that was it. 

fast forward a week later which was yesterday  he called me again I answered he said he “was calling to check up on me”…  

 

the whole situation is weird and I wanted to here y’all’s advice 

[happyhorizons]

40 minutes ago, Kileyallen said:

So I recently had a causal situation with this guy. He’s a bit older than me but he is fun. Anyways I went into the situation with it being just fun and casual. He’s very flirty and touchy anyways we went out three times. The third time we had s*x after we did it he seemed super quiet. I was being sarcastic trying to lighten the mood he seemed annoyed he even jokingly told me to get out. so I said I was going to leave. He said okay ? So I called my ride because I didn’t want him taking me home knowing where I lived. 

He sat across of me and kept telling me “he didn’t want me to go home, and that he wished I could stay longer. I told him I had to leave, he then got up and sat right next to me and started kissing my forehead and hugging me. I put my phone face down and he asked me why I was being secretive? I told him I wasn’t , then he proceeded to ask me to see my phone ? I thought he was playing until he started to teach for my phone I was in shock .

He kept telling me he needed to see my phone to make sure my ride was coming to the right house ?? I told him no. He then got up and sat across from me again and started talking to me. I didn’t hear him and asked him to repeat what he said? He said “nope I’m good whoever your texting is more important than what I have to say” 

My ride ended up coming he asked me for a kiss and told me to text him when I got home. The next day he called me twice I tried to call him back but that was it. 

fast forward a week later which was yesterday  he called me again I answered he said he “was calling to check up on me”…  

 

the whole situation is weird and I wanted to here y’all’s advice 

IMO, he was very rude and treated you badly. He should have made you feel comfortable and not like he was ready for you to leave after you were intimate. Very low class and not remotely proper on his behalf. You deserve to be treated with so much more respect. He’s an ass.

 

[Gaeta]

I would block this guy sooooo fast!!! There is no way l'd see that man again after this. You were in a  VERY vulnerable position there. You're naked in a stranger's home with no car ! Then he starts joking you should leave and play jealous! no freakin way!! 

Why are you still talking to this clown?

[NuevoYorko]

Is this the same dud that you posted about a few days ago?   You seem to spend a lot of time on guys who are losers.  

Since you have asked for advice, here is mine:  STOP HAVING SEX WITH RANDOM WEIRD GUYS WHO YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW.   

Edited June 11, 2024 by NuevoYorko

[Gebidozo]

Uh-oh, stay away from this guy, OP. Being controlling and jealous to such extent and so early in the relationship is a major red flag. He tried to forcibly take your phone? Why are you even talking to him after that?

[basil67]

Judging from this and your previous post he's a bit controlling and scary. 

But your own choices weren't great either.  Why would you go back him for more sex after we all advised you to stay away from him?    Why would you have repeated sex with with a guy when you don't trust him enough to tell him where you live?   Heck, he could easily follow you home if he's that way inclined.

And how did this go from you being sarcastic and joking, to him jokingly telling you to leave....to you actually getting all your stuff and leaving?   What happened between him jokingly telling you to leave and you deciding to call a ride?  

[Kileyallen]

14 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Judging from this and your previous post he's a bit controlling and scary. 

But your own choices weren't great either.  Why would you go back him for more sex after we all advised you to stay away from him?    Why would you have repeated sex with with a guy when you don't trust him enough to tell him where you live?   Heck, he could easily follow you home if he's that way inclined.

And how did this go from you being sarcastic and joking, to him jokingly telling you to leave....to you actually getting all your stuff and leaving?   What happened between him jokingly telling you to leave and you deciding to call a ride?  

This is a completely new man then the previous one I’ve posted… this man is almost 30 and I’m 23 

[happyhorizons]

3 minutes ago, Kileyallen said:

This is a completely new man then the previous one I’ve posted… this man is almost 30 and I’m 23 

KA, this man treated you with very little respect. You do not need men like this in your life.

[basil67]

3 minutes ago, Kileyallen said:

This is a completely new man then the previous one I’ve posted… this man is almost 30 and I’m 23 

So you've got two FWBs in quick succession who are both controlling?   And again, why would you jump into the bed of someone when you're not comfortable telling him where you live? 

 

 

[stillafool]

16 hours ago, NuevoYorko said:

Is this the same dud that you posted about a few days ago?   You seem to spend a lot of time on guys who are losers.  

Since you have asked for advice, here is mine:  STOP HAVING SEX WITH RANDOM WEIRD GUYS WHO YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW.   

I agree.  If you don't feel comfortable enough with a guy to let him know where you live, how can you feel comfortable having sex with them?  Stop putting yourself in that position.

[happyhorizons]

1 hour ago, stillafool said:

I agree.  If you don't feel comfortable enough with a guy to let him know where you live, how can you feel comfortable having sex with them?  Stop putting yourself in that position.

Agreed ^^^ ......make better decisions.

[smackie9]

Block delete cut all contact.

[JJE]

while you were with him, were you actively seeing other guys. Flirty texts or hookups that you didnt want him to know about?

[BaileyB]

On 6/10/2024 at 7:18 PM, Kileyallen said:

I called my ride because I didn’t want him taking me home knowing where I lived. 

I find this odd - you had sex with the man, but you are not feeling safe enough to let him know where you live… For me, if I’m not feeling safe with a man, I’m not having sex with him.

On 6/10/2024 at 7:18 PM, Kileyallen said:

He proceeded to ask me to see my phone. I thought he was playing until he started to teach for my phone.

I would not feel safe with this man. I would block him and I not see him again. 

Edited June 24, 2024 by BaileyB

[Kileyallen]

On 6/23/2024 at 6:53 PM, JJE said:

while you were with him, were you actively seeing other guys. Flirty texts or hookups that you didnt want him to know about?

No.