FWB/Situationship

[FredEire]

8 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

I think it’s obvious that the girl has developed romantic feelings for you. 

Which means that, whatever you guys chose to call this situation before, it’s not an FWB relationship anymore.

I think she’s expecting you to take it to the next level, not by asking her questions, but by showing her unambiguous romantic affection that would make it clear to her that you have deep feelings for her. The stuff she says about not being serious is probably just defensive mechanism she uses to cope with her fear of LTRs.

That’s the reason why she was so annoyed when you asked her whether she was ok with the current arrangement. She doesn't want you to be ok with it. 

So, the question is, regardless of what she wants, regardless of your own issues and fears: do you have feelings for this girl? Do you want to take it to the next level?

I think what you've said there is probably all pretty on point.

Like I said in OP the only occasions I've really been doing backflips for a girl it goes to crazyland pretty quickly. I've questioned in the past if it's something I've manifested but everyone I've dated in the past few months has been really nice even if it hasn't gone anywhere, and I couldn't imagine that kind of thing happening.

I recently heard a story about the first girl I had a real crush on in college, who ended up literally running away from me on the street after we'd both admitted our feelings for eachother. She'd apparently had similar flip-outs with everyone and had fallen out with the entire friend group, and in my friends words "you dodged a torpedo".

Which is why I'm questioning if feeling that really strong attraction is necessarily a good sign in my case, as it seems to particularly pop up when I come across instability/volatility.

I know I'm fond of this girl, I know I'd miss her when I go away, so at the moment I want to give it some time and see if things can develop from there. It does feel a lot different to previous things I've had where I knew it was purely a physical attraction.