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1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said:

If you're this argumentative in real life, well, there is a reason you're having trouble connecting with people. 

I haven't said anything argumentative. But it does seem like you probably are trying to cause trouble. Because that's why you're coming about very aggressively

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5 hours ago, introverted1 said:

You've rejected out of hand all the advice/comments provided here and keep asserting that your own perception of your situation is the only right one. There doesn't seem to be any point in trying to help you.

Good luck. 

 

I don't know why you're having issues. But I'm actually agreeing with @Gaetaso instead of having your internalized issues as something you want to argue about. I think you're going to have to do that somewhere else

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5 hours ago, stillafool said:

Men are literally lining up to have sex with Nikki and Megan, and their faces nor bodies look like men.  I agree it would be best to start therapy.

Really who is Nicki Minaj married to? And who shot Megan thee stallion

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9 hours ago, tdbq said:

No I have always perceived myself as masculine as a man anyway I understand men much more than women id actually be more comfortable with men the only reason I decided to stay female was because of my attraction to men 

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So I feel as I've gotten nowhere with straight men it's no reason to continue to pretend basically as in every other regard I'd be more comfortable as a man.

Going through puberty is tough enough at age 14 when everyone at school and all your peers are also going through it, it must be a million times harder to go through it at age 6 when no one else is.

Because you went through puberty too young, you probably were sexualized before you understood what sex even was, got treated as older than you were, had to go to the doctor about it which made a normal part of growing up feel like it wasn't natural or was a bad thing, and probably a million other things. It's not surprising that you decided to reject your femininity as a response and decided that you were masculine.

But it doesn't seem like living as a man is actually right for you, it just seems like you're not having success dating, that's not a reason to transition... seems like you'll regret it. 

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Really who is Nicki Minaj married to? And who shot Megan thee stallion

Why are arguing so hard about this? You are not them and they are not you. Just because you look similar to them doesn't mean that their life experiences are yours or what people say about them are true about you. 

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2 hours ago, tdbq said:

Really who is Nicki Minaj married to? And who shot Megan thee stallion

You can google that information if it's that important to you.  Lots of Gay trans men have sex and some with heterosexual men, so you should be able to find what you're looking for if they can.

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7 hours ago, Gaeta said:

This is no reason to change gender. People change gender because they strongly feel, through their life, they were born in the wrong body. They don't weight in if their life would be better in the other gender, it's not even an option, their conviction is stronger than anything else. 

Your theory is you did not cut it as a woman in the dating world so I might as well try to be a man. That is almost offensive toward transgenders. 

 

No I've always felt like I was a man in the most natural way Ive just always tried to be a woman because of the fact that I'm attracted to men and I felt I didn't belong. Plus I think it logically doesn't make sense to feel like a gender more stereotypes to me. But I've always had gender dysphoria like I'd prefer to top a man with my male genitalia that I don't have. Etc... I've always viewed myself as a man.

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7 minutes ago, stillafool said:

You can google that information if it's that important to you.  Lots of Gay trans men have sex and some with heterosexual men, so you should be able to find what you're looking for if they can.

A convict child molester. And Megan was shot by her boyfriend. That's what they were subjected to even though they're wealthy with fame. What do you think ordinary people like her get treated like especially in Las Vegas NV exactly

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2 hours ago, SurfCity said:

Going through puberty is tough enough at age 14 when everyone at school and all your peers are also going through it, it must be a million times harder to go through it at age 6 when no one else is.

Because you went through puberty too young, you probably were sexualized before you understood what sex even was, got treated as older than you were, had to go to the doctor about it which made a normal part of growing up feel like it wasn't natural or was a bad thing, and probably a million other things. It's not surprising that you decided to reject your femininity as a response and decided that you were masculine.

But it doesn't seem like living as a man is actually right for you, it just seems like you're not having success dating, that's not a reason to transition... seems like you'll regret it. 

Why are arguing so hard about this? You are not them and they are not you. Just because you look similar to them doesn't mean that their life experiences are yours or what people say about them are true about you. 

No I was masculine at 5 my female classmates that were feminine got hurt when I'd play with them I only played with tomboys or boys I preferred the boys but they'd hit me for trying to hang with them because I was a girl to them

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8 hours ago, FredEire said:

It's a tricky place because most straight men won't date a pre-op trans man and most gay men won't date a trans man, but there are definitely potential partners out there for you OP, you just probably wont find many of them on regular dating apps like Tinder or in regular meeting places such as bars.

A transman pre op has a vagina. Post op our bottom surgery would be to get a penis because we weren't born with one

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4 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

If you're this argumentative in real life, well, there is a reason you're having trouble connecting with people. 

The only thing I didn't agree with was that black women were drag queens for wearing make up the same make up white women wear as @basil67implies what a white woman can do wear blonde hair make up etc is the same thing any woman of color can do and I will never agree with that.

But I definitely have been agreeing saying that I need to focus on transitioning as @Gaeta suggested I agree with them that I need to focus on more than anything.

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8 hours ago, NuevoYorko said:

I know many trans people who are gay.  To clarify:  a M to F "trans woman" who dates women.   So born with external sex organs of a male, but self identifies as a woman and presents to the world as a woman.  A gay woman.   

Or, a F to M "trans man" who dates men.   

It's all common.  But I live on the West Coast in a place where people who don't fall into gender or various other "norms" tend to congregate.  

I don't know where you live but you might find a comfort zone for yourself if you go where people are generally accepting of all aspects of the LGBTQ+ community.

After all is said and done, just like everyone else, you'll live your best life when and if you can be true to yourself and honor who you really are.

Maybe Vegas isn't west enough it has a lot of sexism and racism in Vegas maybe California is better. In Elko Nevada we literally have a white woman complaining how her kids keep being told the classmates have whips for them etc....  so there's issues in Nevada I really need to make a move to a more open area for sure

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31 minutes ago, tdbq said:

A convict child molester. And Megan was shot by her boyfriend. That's what they were subjected to even though they're wealthy with fame. What do you think ordinary people like her get treated like especially in Las Vegas NV exactly

What does any of that have to do with your life or this thread?

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33 minutes ago, tdbq said:

The only thing I didn't agree with was that black women were drag queens for wearing make up the same make up white women wear as @basil67implies what a white woman can do wear blonde hair make up etc is the same thing any woman of color can do and I will never agree with that.

I did not say this at all.  And twisting my words is what makes you seem so argumentative.

I said that Nicki Menaj looks trashy.  I said Nicki's makeup looks like a drag queen and Nicki's plastic surgery looks terrible.   I said nothing about styling of black women in general.  And frankly, I don't know or see any white women who do the whole Barbie look anyway, let alone black women.   The majority of women, black, white or asian, just do regular, attractive makeup which suits their looks.  That's even if they wear makeup - many of us don't.  Heck, who's got time to do all that contouring and eyelashes and s*** anyway? 

If you want to do makeup like a drag queen, knock yourself out.  It's your face and your choice.  But clearly, it's not working for you if no men are interested. 

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