Behavior Interpretation

[Rajeev]

7 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

Do you two really say much of anything to each other besides waving and a quick 'hey'?

last week she came to my office and have some communication, why you are early and ..( I am usually  alone in my office ) but she is with other 4 or 5 guys so it not good idea I go there I think

[Sony12]

Just now, Rajeev said:

last week she came to my office and have some communication, why you are early and ..( I am usually  alone in my office ) but she is with other 4 or 5 guys so it not good idea I go there I think

I think you need to start talking to this young lady a little more than you do before you begin spending much time thinking about her.

[basil67]

2 hours ago, Rajeev said:

 

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@Sony12

but for this recent case, I was busy with my work when I noticed some movement in my peripheral vision. When I looked in that direction, I saw her walking with her arm behind her, opening and closing her fist. It caught my attention, and then I saw face (her turned back her head to see). At that moment, I even thought this gesture might have some special meaning that I don't understand!!!! my impression is if so far it was just friendly manner but this is beyond that. I want to be sure if she is interested and then I go for next steps that's why I am interpreting her actions. so what do you think guys?  @BaileyB is right ?

I can only reiterate that body language is not a perfect science. 

If you spend your life waiting to be sure, you will get nowhere. Life is about taking chances 

[ZA Dater]

37 minutes ago, basil67 said:

I can only reiterate that body language is not a perfect science. 

If you spend your life waiting to be sure, you will get nowhere. Life is about taking chances 

Agree on this there is no body language exact science but I do sometimes wonder about people who play with their hair, if there is not some sort of science around that. OP does she ever do that?

Whether these sort of risks are worth it in the workplace is debatable.

[basil67]

8 hours ago, ZA Dater said:

Agree on this there is no body language exact science but I do sometimes wonder about people who play with their hair, if there is not some sort of science around that

A woman could play with her hair because she likes the feel of it running through her fingers, or because she finds it soothing, or could be a habit....there are any number of good reasons for it not to be flirting.  

[Gaeta]

You're making this very complicated for nothing.

You find someone to date. If you like her then offer exclusivity. Then you go into dating to get to know each other. No one knows after 3 months if they want to spend the rest of their life with someone. It takes a good 2 years dating to talk about marriage or living together.

[Rajeev]

My latest update:

I requested in LinkedIn to her and she accepted and next day she sent message and said we are creating and group chat for our floor guys, can we have your number?

[Sony12]

46 minutes ago, Rajeev said:

My latest update:

I requested in LinkedIn to her and she accepted and next day she sent message and said we are creating and group chat for our floor guys, can we have your number?

That in no way indicates that she is not in you romantically either. All that means is that she's creating a way where she can communicate easier with the entire area. 

[Alpacalia]

On 6/26/2024 at 2:45 PM, basil67 said:

A woman could play with her hair because she likes the feel of it running through her fingers, or because she finds it soothing, or could be a habit....there are any number of good reasons for it not to be flirting.  

This is true. Albeit, one time, I saw a really attractive man and I subconsciously started fiddling with my hair, I didn't even notice until after he walked past me. I still don't know why I did it, it was just a natural reaction. Point being, sometimes we do things without thinking because we are attracted to someone or nervous around them.

Don't concern yourself with the why. Give her your number and see where it goes. It could just be for a work-related group chat or it could be an opportunity to get to know her better. Either way, it's a chance to build a connection with her. 

[Sony12]

Generally speaking when coworkers exchange personal info they will make it clear what it is intended for.

If she said it was for a group text with other people on the floor than that is likely exactly what it is for 

Edited June 30 by Sony12

[Rajeev]

2 hours ago, Sony12 said:

Generally speaking when coworkers exchange personal info they will make it clear what it is intended for.

If she said it was for a group text with other people on the floor than that is likely exactly what it is for 

The funny thing she asked me my number for group chat early morning and in afternoon her manager saw me and asked me about my number again and he did not know anything that she had asked me and i did not say she was asked me in early morning. 

[Rajeev]

2 hours ago, Sony12 said:

Generally speaking when coworkers exchange personal info they will make it clear what it is intended for.

If she said it was for a group text with other people on the floor than that is likely exactly what it is for 

And also another thing there was no group so far , this group is created Friday two days after i sent Linkdin request !

[Alpacalia]

I do agree that there isn't enough to go off of to determine if she is interested in you romantically.  

It is possible that she is just being friendly and trying to make a connection since you work in the same corridor. 

Ultimately, only time and further interaction will reveal her true intentions. 

If you are interested in her, it wouldn't hurt to continue chatting with her and see where the conversation goes. Maybe reach out and mention that you look forward to chatting with her in the group chat and would like to get to know her more.

Edited June 30 by Alpacalia

[Rajeev]

34 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

I do agree that there isn't enough to go off of to determine if she is interested in you romantically.  

It is possible that she is just being friendly and trying to make a connection since you work in the same corridor. 

Ultimately, only time and further interaction will reveal her true intentions. 

If you are interested in her, it wouldn't hurt to continue chatting with her and see where the conversation goes. Maybe reach out and mention that you look forward to chatting with her in the group chat and would like to get to know her more.

She is really strange , after this number story , she was still looking at me Friday, for example quickly turned head to me and looking and then looks straight, or looks right , looks at me and looks left quickly. 

[Alpacalia]

33 minutes ago, Rajeev said:

She is really strange , after this number story , she was still looking at me Friday, for example quickly turned head to me and looking and then looks straight, or looks right , looks at me and looks left quickly. 

Body language is tricky. Unless of course you have a keen eye for it.

Her looking briefly and then away can be because she's nervous, which in itself doesn't mean anything, or, she doesn't want you to think that she's interested in you.

Or, she's momentarily attracted and doesn't want you to take notice.

So, kind of hard to decipher interest on that alone.

Other times, when your eyes meet, you both instantly know that there's some electrified air, even if it's fleeting.

Edited June 30 by Alpacalia

[basil67]

1 hour ago, Rajeev said:

She is really strange , after this number story , she was still looking at me Friday, for example quickly turned head to me and looking and then looks straight, or looks right , looks at me and looks left quickly. 

This is EXACTLY how my husband describes my poor eye contact.  It's really uncomfortable to sustain 

Edited June 30 by basil67

[Rajeev]

15 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

Body language is tricky. Unless of course you have a keen eye for it.

Her looking briefly and then away can be because she's nervous, which in itself doesn't mean anything, or, she doesn't want you to think that she's interested in you.

Or, she's momentarily attracted and doesn't want you to take notice.

So, kind of hard to decipher interest on that alone.

Other times, when your eyes meet, you both instantly know that there's some electrified air, even if it's fleeting.

Today this time she kept looking with smile until I looked down

[Sony12]

42 minutes ago, Rajeev said:

Today this time she kept looking with smile until I looked down

I think you need to stop focusing so much on this junior highish type of flirtation. 

[Alpacalia]

2 hours ago, Rajeev said:

Today this time she kept looking with smile until I looked down

Are you going to keep this up every day until you get the response you want, or are you going to confront this situation and either talk to her or move on?

Edited July 1 by Alpacalia

[Rajeev]

50 minutes ago, Alpacalia said:

Are you going to keep this up every day until you get the response you want, or are you going to confront this situation and either talk to her or move on?

Of course I am going to start conversation with her with whatsapp, in our workspace setting there is not so much opportunity , just everyday greetings is possible. I think the whole point of that so called group chat ( which nobody send message 😀) is now I have her number. I got the feeling maybe it is a bit awkward as soon as I have her number I initiate messaging.I wait till tomorrow for example and then initiate conversation But i dont know how to start conversation? Any suggestions? 

Edited July 1 by Rajeev

[Sony12]

1 hour ago, Rajeev said:

Of course I am going to start conversation with her with whatsapp, in our workspace setting there is not so much opportunity , just everyday greetings is possible. I think the whole point of that so called group chat ( which nobody send message 😀) is now I have her number. I got the feeling maybe it is a bit awkward as soon as I have her number I initiate messaging.I wait till tomorrow for example and then initiate conversation But i dont know how to start conversation? Any suggestions? 

Unless she specifically gave you her number for non workplace socializing reasons you really shouldn't use it for that.

[Alpacalia]

4 hours ago, Rajeev said:

Of course I am going to start conversation with her with whatsapp, in our workspace setting there is not so much opportunity , just everyday greetings is possible. I think the whole point of that so called group chat ( which nobody send message 😀) is now I have her number. I got the feeling maybe it is a bit awkward as soon as I have her number I initiate messaging.I wait till tomorrow for example and then initiate conversation But i dont know how to start conversation? Any suggestions? 

Well, you could take the honest route, and say that you noticed that you have her number now and wanted to touch base with her outside of work. That way, if she's not comfortable with it, she can let you know, but it also shows that you're interested in getting to know her better. 🙂

[Rajeev]

3 hours ago, Sony12 said:

Unless she specifically gave you her number for non workplace socializing reasons you really shouldn't use it for that.

But as i said, she got my number with groupchat reason but did not pass to the her manager and groupchat creator and he was not aware of that at all. I dont know story behind of this. Do you have any idea? . My impression is it was a signal for having communication via whatsapp. I could not find a other logic for that.

[Rajeev]

1 hour ago, Alpacalia said:

Well, you could take the honest route, and say that you noticed that you have her number now and wanted to touch base with her outside of work. That way, if she's not comfortable with it, she can let you know, but it also shows that you're interested in getting to know her better. 🙂

Sounds good, do you think I have to say explicitly that " if you feel uncomfortable please let me know"?

[mark clemson]

8 hours ago, Rajeev said:

Today this time she kept looking with smile until I looked down

This means, I think, that she is aware that you like her.

It DOESN'T NECESSARILY mean she likes you back enough to date. She might, might not.

As everyone is trying to tell you, the only way to really  find out is to see if she'll go on a date with you (or whatever the custom is in your country/culture).