fanumtaxed Posted June 26, 2024 Share Posted June 26, 2024 Me and my cousin's friend, or I'd say our mutual friend decided to hang out alone today. The three of us have been hanging out almost everyday. Sometimes we hang out at my cousins house, sometimes we hang out at my house. My cousin got grounded and had her phone taken away so me and her friend decided to hang out at my house today. It went horribly. Things started off fine at first. We watched max, played uno, played song association, and played Minecraft. Then we started play fighting after I jokingly hid her phone. Midway into us play fighting, she gets on me and starts trying to tickle me, which I didn't find funny. So I started grabbing her arms and telling her to get off of me. And she completely ignored me and kept tickling me. I was laughing because I was being tickled, but I was serious when I was telling her to get off of me. I was serious for two reasons. 1. Being that I don't like being tickled. 2. Being that I had a hard on. I know that we were just play fighting, but I couldn't control it, and trust me I would've rather not had one. At some point during this I came. Directly after it happened I was so embarrassed and mad that it happened, that I got mad at her and told her to get off of me and leave my house. She froze for a minute, I'm pretty sure because she realized what had happened, then she asked me if I was serious. I told her yes and to get out of my room. I feel so embarrassed, humiliated, and disgusted. And I feel bad for being mean to her while telling her to leave. Her mom drove her here, so she had to ask her mom to come pick her up while she was at work. I don't know what to do or say to her. But I do know that I can't avoid her forever. What should I text her or say to her next time I see her? I feel like if I completely ignore what happened it will be even more awkward Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 26, 2024 Share Posted June 26, 2024 (edited) You've got nothing to be embarrassed about. What alarms me is that she ignored your request for her to STOP When you see her next, do not mention your reaction. Instead, make the conversation her lack of respect for your boundaries. Ask her how she'd feel if it was you ignoring her saying "no" or "stop" Edited June 26, 2024 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fanumtaxed Posted June 27, 2024 Author Share Posted June 27, 2024 1 hour ago, basil67 said: You've got nothing to be embarrassed about. What alarms me is that she ignored your request for her to STOP When you see her next, do not mention your reaction. Instead, make the conversation her lack of respect for your boundaries. Ask her how she'd feel if it was you ignoring her saying "no" or "stop" But what if she's mad at me? She hasn't texted or called me since earlier, so I think that she is. This is not the first time that she's taken things too far, so I'm gonna try to speak to her about it, but I just feel terrible for the way I reacted. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 27, 2024 Share Posted June 27, 2024 Your reaction was entirely in keeping in a situation where someone who took things too far and caused you embarrassment and/or distress. If she's mad at you, then she has no self awareness. You have done nothing wrong 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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