My boyfriend got a girls # & almost met up with her

[Beaniebutt]

Okay here it is- 

My kinda new boyfriend (known him since January, boyfriend title for maybe a month(?)) was purposefully deceiving for a night. To start, I felt secure and special with him, He really was doing everything right.

while i was at electric forest, he had his bday back at home (planned the festival before i met him btw.) his friends and him went out one night and were chilling with this one girl all night who they “adopted” as their own. Well MY boyfriend ends up driving everyone home (3 people trusted to get behind the wheel with him- keep in mind), and at the end of the car ride she asks for his number and he give it to her. She texts him, & at first it’s casual but quickly changes. She said they “made a good team”, (talking about playing cornhole) and my Bf said it was the “best birthday gift… but i could think of one better”

🤕🤧😪😓

She asks what he means, and he says “idk i definitely felt some chemistry with you tonight.” She says it’s mutual, and my bf asks “what should we do about that?” & she gave him her hotel room numbe., they called each other sexy, yada yada , and the convo ends w my bf saying “you really want me to come over?” She says yeah. 
 

I found this in his recently deleted messages. When i talked to him, He told me he wasn’t gonna tell me bc it was a drunken mistake& He said he never went over to her hotel. He also called her average…. As if that makes me feel better?

 She did text him twice after that night, (“ had a really good time!” & “thinking about you” a week later.) and he never answered, but idk what to believe. I texted her actually (he gave me her number, & ((cringe i know)) and she said  thy didn’t do anything physical. [She also was annoying asf & said she’s not shocked he has a girlfriend because he seems so cool -_- like gf what 🤣]
 

the dumbass in me believes he didn’t meet up with her. But as I’m trying to forgive i kinda just think what i seen was disrespectful enough to end it…. too many opportunities to mention he had a girlfriend.

also after my festival he grilled me & alsmot dumped me for 1) almost taking a guy friend home that wasn’t initially planned, and i didn’t even do it 2) liking a friends (who i had hooked up with) message (which i did right in front of him, wasn’t hiding anything.) 

made me feel like s*** for absolutely nothing. Come to find out it’s guilty ass conscience. He also directly told me he was good while i was away, so he did directly lie to my face too. 
 

Idk im not even sad or mad im disappointed. 

Edited July 5 by Beaniebutt
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[BaileyB]

Next…

I personally wouldn’t have any patience for this kind of drama. If he is ready to mingle, I would make sure that he’s single… 

9 minutes ago, Beaniebutt said:

made me feel like s*** for absolutely nothing.

This would be the official reason why I dumped his a$$.

[Gaeta]

14 minutes ago, Beaniebutt said:

And at the end of the car ride she asks for his number and he give it to her.

Automatic breakup right there.

I would make that kind of new biyfriend a kind of new ex! 

Don't date disrespectful sh$theads.

[Alpacalia]

Sorry this happened. Your boyfriend is a bona fide jerk. It's clear that at the very least, he emotionally cheated on you with this other girl. And even that is pretty bad. He was flirting with her, talking about chemistry and wanting to get together with her. And while he might not have physically done anything, the fact that he even entertained the idea of it and gave her his number is a huge red flag. 

The fact that he lied to you about it and tried to manipulate and guilt trip you for innocent actions on your part is even worse. It shows a lack of respect and consideration for your feelings. And it's not like he just made one mistake and learned from it. He actively tried to deceive you and continued to entertain this girl's attention even after the situation had passed. 
 

[Gebidozo]

That guy is a liar, a cheater, and a jerk. Please dump him now and don’t look back. 

[Beaniebutt]

2 hours ago, BaileyB said:

Next…

I personally wouldn’t have any patience for this kind of drama. If he is ready to mingle, I would make sure that he’s single… 

This would be the official reason why I dumped his a$$.

Yeah, the projecting/ hypocrisy/ double standard is the reason that i think im numb about it. I told him i don’t feel bad at all about any of that anymore. 

He had me using my 5 step gel pedicure on him in a day full of pampering. Knowing damn well he did something worse than me …

[Beaniebutt]

1 hour ago, Alpacalia said:

 It's clear that at the very least, he emotionally cheated on you with this other girl. And even that is pretty bad. 

 

Yeah :< idk how someone texts those specific things as “drunk texting.”  

[FredEire]

None of this is good and I think it's a good place to end it whether he met up with her or not.

That being said, and I'm not trying to excuse his actions, did you read he messages because he admitted what had happened and offered them up of his own volition, or because you were snooping through them? If it's the second I think this is a bad habit you need to work on.

Edited July 6 by FredEire

[ExpatInItaly]

It doesn't really even matter if he went to her hotel room or not - he is very clearly not committed to you at all. 

The intent to cheat was there. Get rid of him immediately. He is not boyfriend material. 

[smackie9]

In your title it should have read "My EX Boy Friend....." Why are you even tolerating this for one second??...dump this chump.