Shaw12 Posted July 6, 2024 Share Posted July 6, 2024 I work with a guy whom I’m very attracted to, and we are both currently single. We have become friends outside of the job, hanging out occasionally with others for lunch or dinner. I’ve noticed him glancing at me up and down a few times and then quickly looking away when he sees I’ve noticed. One of our co-workers told him how much she enjoyed working with me, and he told her that he sometimes walks past everyone else’s office just to come and talk to me. The other day, he and I were joking about drinking, and I said that I’d never been drunk because I’d be the person who said or did too much while drunk. He then goes on to say it would be fun for me to be drunk because it would be fun to see what I would say or do while I’m drunk. I know he’s very playful and jokes with everyone about stuff, but I’m not sure what to make of that particular comment or if I’m possibly overanalyzing it. I possibly would still like to approach him, but I still don’t know what to think about the “drunk” comments completely. What are your thoughts? Am I reading too much into everything? Is he attracted to me, or is he giving off dicey vibes with the comments about seeing me drunk, and I need to be wary? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 6, 2024 Share Posted July 6, 2024 I'd take his comment as banter. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted July 6, 2024 Share Posted July 6, 2024 Yes. You are reading too much into everything. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted July 6, 2024 Share Posted July 6, 2024 He may be trying to be suggestive or to "suss out" your interest level in him (as you are doing also) by these comments - e.g. gauging your reaction to the idea of being a bit more uninhibited around each other. If you don't have a policy or view against dating co-workers (some companies do and some folks do as well and that's not such a crazy thing IMO), it sounds like it's perhaps time to ask him out? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 7, 2024 Share Posted July 7, 2024 @mark clemson makes a good point. My response got caught up in your question about him seeing you drunk and that it was just banter. But banter can be part of showing romantic interest. Or it can be how friends talk. Are you interested in dating him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shaw12 Posted July 7, 2024 Author Share Posted July 7, 2024 (edited) I'd like to add that he's also gone out of his way to come and help me with various projects at a house I'm currently updating and he'll either do stuff for free or very little money, and always insists on coming back to help me with anything I need. Edited July 7, 2024 by Shaw12 I meant to respond under someone else's question. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shaw12 Posted July 7, 2024 Author Share Posted July 7, 2024 1 hour ago, basil67 said: @mark clemson makes a good point. My response got caught up in your question about him seeing you drunk and that it was just banter. But banter can be part of showing romantic interest. Or it can be how friends talk. Are you interested in dating him? Yes, I'm interested in possibly dating him. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 7, 2024 Share Posted July 7, 2024 42 minutes ago, Shaw12 said: Yes, I'm interested in possibly dating him. Ask him out 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted July 7, 2024 Share Posted July 7, 2024 The point of dating is getting to know someone, really. As long as you're interested and not turned off of him because of his comment, which is not inherently creepy, but we weren't there ... you have little to lose if you try to get to find out more about him and whether there is any potential between you. It's not like you are proposing to spend your lives together at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
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