BaileyB Posted July 8, 2024 Share Posted July 8, 2024 Not judgment, honestly. Concern. You seem to be aware that this relationship can not continue forever, based on the fact that you have tried to end the relationship in the past. It feels like you are bargaining when you suggest that you can stay friends with your affair partner. To maintain a “friendship” with your affair partner is not going to help you to move forward and find happiness. It would be a continuation of this emotional affair. An emotional affair is by definition, a friendship that does not respect/crosses boundaries related to one or both partner’s other relationships. If I had one word of encouragement, it would be to begin to develop your exit plan, as you called it. You can do things like talking with a counsellor, building other relationships, developing other interests and forms of support. You can end this relationship and you will be ok - but you will need to have a plan and some support. Best wishes. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RebeccaR Posted July 8, 2024 Share Posted July 8, 2024 With all due respect to the pain of it, 4-5 months of no contact may not be enough to get over the affair. It might take 8 months or a year or even longer, but it will work. The only thing that’s guaranteed is it will take longer, and be more painful in the long run, if you break NC. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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