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Girlfriend lives an hour away and have been together for about two years. I see her one a week and one weekend a month . She has a 9 yr old son and out time is limited We get along and sex is great , but I don’t see a future? And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? 

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NuevoYorko Established Member

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Hahaha.   I'm sure you know that nobody's going to advise you to "string her along for sex."   That's low, dude.

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Yep string her along for sex while she is under the impression you have a future together and are a good father figure for her 9 year old son. Great idea, what could go wrong?

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ZA Dater Established Member

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2 hours ago, Alfa1 said:

Girlfriend lives an hour away and have been together for about two years. I see her one a week and one weekend a month . She has a 9 yr old son and out time is limited We get along and sex is great , but I don’t see a future? And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? 

No, end it because it clearly is not working for either of you.

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introverted1 Established Member

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5 hours ago, Alfa1 said:

should I string her along for sex

Ah, the sweet tones of love. 

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Gebidozo Established Member

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9 hours ago, Alfa1 said:

And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? 

Break up. She’ll be free of you and find a man who respects and loves her.

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smackie9 Established Member

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Have you discussed this being something casual? You know FWB? leaving it wide open for the both of you to seek other opportunities? It's worth asking about...if it's not her things then end it. 

Gaeta Established Member

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Why you only have 1 weekend a month?

ZA Dater Established Member

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13 hours ago, Alfa1 said:

Girlfriend lives an hour away and have been together for about two years. I see her one a week and one weekend a month . She has a 9 yr old son and out time is limited We get along and sex is great , but I don’t see a future? And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? 

What made you wonder about this after two years?

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ShyViolet Established Member

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"Stringing someone along for sex" is an unkind thing to do.  Why would you even ask this?  End this relationship and find someone to date who is closer to you and doesn't require so much traveling.  I don't blame you at all for thinking about ending this relationship.  The distance is ridiculous.  It's always better to date locally.

basil67 Established Member

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You get along and the sex is great.  And ~1hr travel is not a distance which should preclude you from seeing each other often - surely you could spend most weekends together and possibly a sleepover one weeknight.    What's really going on?   

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7 hours ago, basil67 said:

You get along and the sex is great.  And ~1hr travel is not a distance which should preclude you from seeing each other often - surely you could spend most weekends together and possibly a sleepover one weeknight.    What's really going on?   

In theory yes, in reality no, it's two hours of travelling time and that's not going to work for many unless there is huge attraction. Reading the first posts, not sure there is that.

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13 minutes ago, ZA Dater said:

In theory yes, in reality no, it's two hours of travelling time and that's not going to work for many unless there is huge attraction. Reading the first posts, not sure there is that.

Well she's his girlfriend, so I would assume there's attraction.  And meeting up is only 2 x 1hr drives....the break in the middle is a significant factor.   Drive an hour there on Friday night or Saturday morning and come home Sat night or sometime Sunday.   

My biggest question is why they don't see each other more regularly.   Does he have pets which can't be left alone?  Or is a nervous driver?  

 

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5 hours ago, ZA Dater said:

In theory yes, in reality no, it's two hours of travelling time and that's not going to work for many unless there is huge attraction. Reading the first posts, not sure there is that.

For some people 1 hr is nothing. It takes me 1 hr to get to work in morning with traffic. I do that twice a day like many other people do. Also they're intimate so he stays over and goes to work from her place.

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39 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

For some people 1 hr is nothing. It takes me 1 hr to get to work in morning with traffic. I do that twice a day like many other people do. Also they're intimate so he stays over and goes to work from her place.

I guess that is a valid point, just seems the OP does not seem interested in committing to this relationship. 

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7 minutes ago, ZA Dater said:

I guess that is a valid point, just seems the OP does not seem interested in committing to this relationship. 

I agree 100% with you.

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14 hours ago, ZA Dater said:

I guess that is a valid point, just seems the OP does not seem interested in committing to this relationship. 

He's also not interested in our opinions ... I think getting a rise out of us was the goal.  Well done, my man.

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ZA Dater Established Member

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7 hours ago, NuevoYorko said:

He's also not interested in our opinions ... I think getting a rise out of us was the goal.  Well done, my man.

Maybe I am looking too much at this but perhaps in his mind he thought people would agree with him to keep the status quo and continue what would appear to be a somewhat transactional relationship.

On the other hand she must be OK with it, else why continue it for 2 years?

 

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18 minutes ago, ZA Dater said:

Maybe I am looking too much at this but perhaps in his mind he thought people would agree with him to keep the status quo and continue what would appear to be a somewhat transactional relationship.

On the other hand she must be OK with it, else why continue it for 2 years?

 

OP hasn't logged in since writing the first post, so they have no idea what was written.  

introverted1 Established Member

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On 7/15/2024 at 8:15 AM, basil67 said:

OP hasn't logged in since writing the first post, so they have no idea what was written.  

It's possible to read threads without logging in, with the exception being the Sexual Health forum. 

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7 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

It's possible to read threads without logging in, with the exception being the Sexual Health forum. 

True that.   But the last sentence of the first post just screamed "someone trying (and failing haha) to get everyone's feathers in a flap"

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Definitely break up. I feel no explanation is required here. 

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