Alfa1 Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 Girlfriend lives an hour away and have been together for about two years. I see her one a week and one weekend a month . She has a 9 yr old son and out time is limited We get along and sex is great , but I don’t see a future? And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 Hahaha. I'm sure you know that nobody's going to advise you to "string her along for sex." That's low, dude. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 Yep string her along for sex while she is under the impression you have a future together and are a good father figure for her 9 year old son. Great idea, what could go wrong? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 2 hours ago, Alfa1 said: Girlfriend lives an hour away and have been together for about two years. I see her one a week and one weekend a month . She has a 9 yr old son and out time is limited We get along and sex is great , but I don’t see a future? And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? No, end it because it clearly is not working for either of you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 5 hours ago, Alfa1 said: should I string her along for sex Ah, the sweet tones of love. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 9 hours ago, Alfa1 said: And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? Break up. She’ll be free of you and find a man who respects and loves her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 Have you discussed this being something casual? You know FWB? leaving it wide open for the both of you to seek other opportunities? It's worth asking about...if it's not her things then end it. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 Why you only have 1 weekend a month? Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 13 hours ago, Alfa1 said: Girlfriend lives an hour away and have been together for about two years. I see her one a week and one weekend a month . She has a 9 yr old son and out time is limited We get along and sex is great , but I don’t see a future? And tired of being alone.. should I string her along for sex or break up? What made you wonder about this after two years? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 "Stringing someone along for sex" is an unkind thing to do. Why would you even ask this? End this relationship and find someone to date who is closer to you and doesn't require so much traveling. I don't blame you at all for thinking about ending this relationship. The distance is ridiculous. It's always better to date locally. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 You get along and the sex is great. And ~1hr travel is not a distance which should preclude you from seeing each other often - surely you could spend most weekends together and possibly a sleepover one weeknight. What's really going on? Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 7 hours ago, basil67 said: You get along and the sex is great. And ~1hr travel is not a distance which should preclude you from seeing each other often - surely you could spend most weekends together and possibly a sleepover one weeknight. What's really going on? In theory yes, in reality no, it's two hours of travelling time and that's not going to work for many unless there is huge attraction. Reading the first posts, not sure there is that. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 13 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: In theory yes, in reality no, it's two hours of travelling time and that's not going to work for many unless there is huge attraction. Reading the first posts, not sure there is that. Well she's his girlfriend, so I would assume there's attraction. And meeting up is only 2 x 1hr drives....the break in the middle is a significant factor. Drive an hour there on Friday night or Saturday morning and come home Sat night or sometime Sunday. My biggest question is why they don't see each other more regularly. Does he have pets which can't be left alone? Or is a nervous driver? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 5 hours ago, ZA Dater said: In theory yes, in reality no, it's two hours of travelling time and that's not going to work for many unless there is huge attraction. Reading the first posts, not sure there is that. For some people 1 hr is nothing. It takes me 1 hr to get to work in morning with traffic. I do that twice a day like many other people do. Also they're intimate so he stays over and goes to work from her place. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 39 minutes ago, Gaeta said: For some people 1 hr is nothing. It takes me 1 hr to get to work in morning with traffic. I do that twice a day like many other people do. Also they're intimate so he stays over and goes to work from her place. I guess that is a valid point, just seems the OP does not seem interested in committing to this relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 7 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: I guess that is a valid point, just seems the OP does not seem interested in committing to this relationship. I agree 100% with you. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 14 hours ago, ZA Dater said: I guess that is a valid point, just seems the OP does not seem interested in committing to this relationship. He's also not interested in our opinions ... I think getting a rise out of us was the goal. Well done, my man. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 7 hours ago, NuevoYorko said: He's also not interested in our opinions ... I think getting a rise out of us was the goal. Well done, my man. Maybe I am looking too much at this but perhaps in his mind he thought people would agree with him to keep the status quo and continue what would appear to be a somewhat transactional relationship. On the other hand she must be OK with it, else why continue it for 2 years? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 18 minutes ago, ZA Dater said: Maybe I am looking too much at this but perhaps in his mind he thought people would agree with him to keep the status quo and continue what would appear to be a somewhat transactional relationship. On the other hand she must be OK with it, else why continue it for 2 years? OP hasn't logged in since writing the first post, so they have no idea what was written. Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted July 16 Share Posted July 16 On 7/15/2024 at 8:15 AM, basil67 said: OP hasn't logged in since writing the first post, so they have no idea what was written. It's possible to read threads without logging in, with the exception being the Sexual Health forum. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 16 Share Posted July 16 7 minutes ago, introverted1 said: It's possible to read threads without logging in, with the exception being the Sexual Health forum. True that. But the last sentence of the first post just screamed "someone trying (and failing haha) to get everyone's feathers in a flap" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SidneyBlake Posted July 30 Share Posted July 30 Definitely break up. I feel no explanation is required here. Link to post Share on other sites
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