Anon12345 Posted July 16 Share Posted July 16 i want to break up with my boyfriend because i don’t think i’m ready for a relationship right now and i’ve found it quite overwhelming. he argues with my friends which is quite draining to deal with. he’s my first boyfriend and we’ve been together for 3 weeks now, but we go to different schools so we mostly talk online (i’m 15, he’s 16). he is very caring and told me he loved me in german and is always complimenting me, and i feel very bad about this and i don’t want to upset him. part of my problem is that i am most comfortable talking over text, especially because we’ve only met up in real life once, so i’m scared to break up with him face to face even though i’ve been told it’s the right thing to do. i’m also scared to call him, i have issues with anxiety and sometimes i physically cannot get out the words i want to say, so i worry that i wont be able to say everything i want to. i don’t want to use my anxiety as an excuse but i genuinely think it would have a negative impact. i feel like drafting a text and being able to reread it would ensure i’m giving him the most thorough and correct message i can, but my good friend and my mum don’t think i should do it through text. what should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted July 16 Share Posted July 16 (edited) Meet him face to face in a safe environment, a cafe or something like that. Say something nice to him, describe what you liked about him. Tell him he’s been warm and caring. Say that you are grateful to him and you definitely had real feelings for him. Then gently tell him that you aren’t ready to be in a relationship at this point. Tell him you want to be alone. Say that it’s better to not keep contact, otherwise both of you will feel sad. Wish him all the best, tell him you won’t forget him. Then just leave. Edited July 16 by Gebidozo Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted July 16 Share Posted July 16 If you only met up in real life once, you do NOT owe it to him to meet up with him face to face to break up. If you are most comfortable breaking up via text then do that. It is absolutely ok. This is a guy who you have been "dating" for 3 weeks and who you have met up with in person once. Just send him a very simple, to-the-point message that you can't continue dating him because it isn't working for you, you do not feel ready for a relationship, whatever. Don't send him paragraphs of explanations and apologies. Be confident in your decision. Whatever you do, it needs to be done as soon as possible, like ripping a band aid off. You can't delay it because you're afraid to do it... that only makes it much harder. I think the people telling you that you can't do it over text are giving you bad advice. Do whatever works for you. This is barely a "boyfriend" at only 3 weeks of dating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 17 Share Posted July 17 If you mostly contact each other online, then an online breakup is fine Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 17 Share Posted July 17 For someone you have met only once in real life and have a dated a grand total of 21 days, an in-person meeting to break up is absolutely not necessary. Send him a message ending it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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