Men, if you have a crush on another woman, and your wife notices, what do you say?

[ExpatInItaly]

On 12/16/2024 at 8:22 PM, kate678 said:

Our marriage is how I'd imagine most people's marriages to be at 50. We're not all over each other, but we usually get along and we spend a lot of time together cycling, walking our dogs, and socialise together in local bars at weekend.

And I may ask, are things still pretty healthy in the bedroom? 

15 hours ago, kate678 said:

I didn't think he'd like that look.

Why not? 

[MsJayne]

Do you think maybe you're starting to feel insecure about your looks, (you sound quite focused on appearances), and so are feeling threatened by a young attractive woman in your husband's sphere? She's young and ambitious and sucking up to an employer who can help her succeed in landing a good job, he's enjoying feeling like she looks up to him. If you're certain he'd never do the wrong thing you have nothing to worry about, except maybe this bit below;

On 12/15/2024 at 10:02 PM, kate678 said:

Not in front of me, but I heard that he did,  from another one of our employees, in passing conversation. We got onto it somehow. 

You got onto it somehow? The subject of your husband flirting 'just happened' to come up? You know you steered the conversation that way  . However the conversation started, probing your husband's employees for a report on his behaviour isn't a good look. Even if you don't actually work in the business you still need to maintain your dignity around employees, you're the boss' wife, you don't want to start staff tongues wagging.