Sinfuldelight Posted January 1, 2006 Share Posted January 1, 2006 I've tried this Long Distance stuff before and have always ended up heart broken. The first time was unavoidable since we were only 16 years old and several states apart. I still love him though because he was my first and wish the very best for him. But since I've been in others that have left me crying for days. I'm currently in one, and shockingly he responded to me and said yes to my profile which was posted on a dating site. Now usually, when I get into long distance relationships I met the guys through things I like, and we're usually friends for a while. But this one, we started out talking, every single day. Whether it was online or on the phone. We just carry on for hours and hours, its as if things are a little too perfect. But of course when you're so far apart you soon run out of things to talk about and run into that little hiccup. We talk about sex, we both are into the same freakish things as far as that goes, so that is a plus to know I've found someone who doesn't think that Bondage is a bad thing! Grr...open minds are a beautiful thing. :cough: Anyway, he has told me a lot, that I make him really happy and that he always smiles when he talks to me. He says he really likes me and feels like I'm the one. Now, I am falling fast and hard because words and his interest just really grab me in the heart. He talks about meeting, sometime in February, which is so close. I'm worried though, the other night he said he thinks he is falling in Love with me. Now, we've only been talking a little over a month. But like I said its like an instant connection. He litterly takes my breath away, but now those old scars and emotions are coming to surface. I don't know what to think. I'm afraid that I'm going to fudge things up because I'm getting scared. What if he is just the way the others were? Sure, they didn't say as many sweet things, but men have a way with words (sorry guys) ... Should I tell him that even though I said the same thing back to him that I'm falling in love, that maybe we should slow things down a little? I mean my God, we've talked about moving in together. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sinfuldelight Posted January 1, 2006 Author Share Posted January 1, 2006 Someone please reply? ;_; Link to post Share on other sites
Argentina Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 For your own sanity and to protect yourself, yes, slow things down until you actually meet. It may be great when you meet, but on the other hand I think it is safer to be realistic. May be you can get this across to him by saying: yes, I think I have deep feelings for you but reckon we should meet first before discussing things like moving in together etc.. Say this with a smile in your voice, a bit of humour. "hey, you might not even like me!" laugh, laugh. Hope this makes sense. It's what I did when I was chatting to someone for a few weeks before meeting them. We really clicked to, but not quite as in depth as what you have been having. By the way, we clicked when we met too. So at the moment all is good. Link to post Share on other sites
stjärna Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 i have to agree with argentina; you won't know for sure how you feel about him until you see him in person. there is something to be said for physical chemistry between two people; i hope that neither of you will be disappointed. that being said, i understand that it will be hard to slow things down, but even if you just mentally prepare for a slowdown, and potential disappointment, that would be a step in the right direction. i wish you well; hope you post how things went when you return . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sinfuldelight Posted January 15, 2006 Author Share Posted January 15, 2006 i have to agree with argentina; you won't know for sure how you feel about him until you see him in person. there is something to be said for physical chemistry between two people; i hope that neither of you will be disappointed. that being said, i understand that it will be hard to slow things down, but even if you just mentally prepare for a slowdown, and potential disappointment, that would be a step in the right direction. i wish you well; hope you post how things went when you return . . . I've been trying to slow it down. He tells me how special I am, how much he loves me and that my size isn't an issue. I've kind of distanced myself a little though just because our meeting is so close and now I worry a lot. I'm a big girl, but he swears left and right that it doesn't matter. So here is hoping for the best. Thanks you guys. Link to post Share on other sites
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