MrPizza Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 My boyfriend recently broke up with me, and I feel heartbroken. We were in a long-distance relationship, but the distance was only three hours, and I traveled every weekend I could to spend time together. We were long-distance for at least two months. At one point, I was unsure about the distance because I was afraid of losing our connection, but he reassured me, saying we could overcome it and that he was willing to fight for it. We agreed to invest time and energy in sharing activities even from afar. However, he broke up with me, saying the distance was too challenging for him. He told me he wanted to be with someone who was physically present and that he started feeling disinterested. He also mentioned feeling that I didn't complement him and didn't know how to love him. Honestly, I never felt like things were going wrong between us; there was no change in his behavior until he suddenly brought up the idea of breaking up. I asked for his reasons but didn't fight for reconciliation. I wish he had communicated his relationship ideals with me so we could work on them before ending things abruptly without my realizing something was wrong. To be honest, I still deeply wish he would come back, and maybe because of the distance, our breakup doesn't feel real to me yet. I felt a strong connection with him; he even said he hoped I would be the mother of his children and saw me as his life partner. Now he simply says I'm not the person he was looking for and that we're not in sync. To calm my feelings, I've tried manifestation techniques and tarot readings, hoping for a change. But I feel like I'm just holding on to hope. I need sincere opinions and comfort. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 (edited) 57 minutes ago, MrPizza said: We were long-distance for at least two months. Did you date this man for two months total, or two months long distance? 57 minutes ago, MrPizza said: the distance was only three hours, and I traveled every weekend I could to spend time together. 57 minutes ago, MrPizza said: he broke up with me, saying the distance was too challenging for him. Did he also travel to spend the weekends with you? He gave you a dogs breakfast of other vague excuses - he wanted to be with someone who was physically present, you didn't complement him, you didn't know how to love him, you are not in sync… Honestly, if it’s only been two months and this is the crap that he is giving you - I would walk away feeling pretty good about the fact that I didn’t waste any more time… Seriously. Edited July 29 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 I'm sorry, but it sounds like you are better off without this relationship. What can be good about a relationship where one person is completely unhappy with things and doesn't share a word about it before just breaking up? You could never trust. Try something not long distance next time, please. Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted July 30 Share Posted July 30 Why would you want him back? Long-distance relationship it hard enough even with someone who truly loves and respects you, which he clearly doesn’t. Don’t chase after people who aren’t interested in you. I understand that it feels terrible to be treated like this after everything he has said about him wanting you to be the mother of his children etc. But that’s the thing, saying beautiful stuff is easy, doing it is hard. Anyone can say anything nice, it doesn’t cost anything. But when push came to shove, he chickened out of the relationship. You can do better. Link to post Share on other sites
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