Is This Right?

[Fra Diavlo]

Hey,

 

 

Last August, during a summer college class, I and a girl (julia) hit it off really well. I had known her in passing for about a year, but only until now did sparks start to fly right off the bat. In all honesty..she pursued me. Her flirting esculated from the first day of class. First..to asking very direct questions from where do i live to where do i hang out...those questions only a girl would ask if one is interested in a guy. The flirting increased to major league teasing of each other and joking around. This esculated to the point where she would come to class early just to seem like she wanted to talk to me. The flirting esculated to the point that she would occasionally stroke my arm. Anyway, a few weeks before the class ended...I asked her out. She kept on rescheduling our dates and she didn't sit next to me in class anymore after that. However..she still flirted with me...giving me those prolonged stares, asking how I was doing, tapping me on the arm in passing once in awhile. Anyway...after the course had ended...I learned she had a boyfriend which she never told me about and was in the process of breaking up with him. I emailed her and told her it was ****ed up at what she did, that she could have told me the truth. I got no response. Anyway...since after the class...she was stalking me online, being online at the exact moment I would be there. Sometimes I would change my online times and she would eventually find me and the circle would start all over again. Occasionally, I emailed her and just say hello. She never responded. However, today, she emails me and asks me out. Do you think I should go out with her or is this just too flaky? Anyway, this girl is 25 years old, me being 29.

 

Thanks

[Neptune]

Just go for it dude. The stuff you are saying is a fairy tale. Wait to you get 50 plus. The effort it takes to get a gals attention, if compared to the NFL, would be the equivalent of a lineman trying to stop a 747 from takeoff.

 

To put it bluntly, it is pure hell.

[EMJ]

That does not make fer flakey. It's obvious that she wanted finish with him before starting with you, that's respectful.

 

You say "She could have told me the truth" Why? That would not have made you feel better. Some people want to close one door before fully opening another. Why would she involve you in that ugly situation? and why would you want to be involved in that? She's probably a little embarassed about the whole thing.

 

She likes you. She did not handle it perfectly, so what? If you are compatible and think you would be good for each other then go for it. Don't be so harsh and judgemental, getting out of unhappy relationships is not easy for anyone. Cut her some slack if you really like her.