Y me Posted August 2, 2024 Share Posted August 2, 2024 Omg you know how you have that nagging feeling that things aren’t right, but you keep believing what your being told until you can’t take it any more and have to get to the truth… so you go to their cell phone and there it is… He is not only lying and cheating, but he’s advertising and posting pics of his junk to hook up with other men and whoever he can . Why? Our sex life is good .. or so I thought… things haven’t been perfect but I don’t understand this. does this mean he’s gay a bi sexual or what is this? He’s not just curious he’s actually hooking up with men behind my back. So I confront him with it and of course he straight Denys it so I admit to snooping his phone and give details to where he knows it’s a bust and he says” I love you I’m sorry he offers no other explanation but can’t leave fast enough, and then completely ghosts me. More than 10 years with this dirtbag and I imagine he’s been doing this the entire time. I feel so dirty and stupid and devastated and not even sure what else I feel or what to do next. This has Completely upheaved of my entire life and I’m like lost. He’s obviously embarrassed that his dirty little secret is out, and I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone so I’m dying about it alone. I’ve tried texting him and calling and he won’t talk to me. I mean I feel like after so many years I deserve some answers. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted August 2, 2024 Share Posted August 2, 2024 well, the one thing that you should be focusing on is that your boyfriend cheated on you and has lied to you. for many people that's grounds for ending the relationship and walking away. other than that, you're likely wanting answers to things that no one can give you. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 14, 2024 Share Posted August 14, 2024 On 8/2/2024 at 5:43 AM, Y me said: I mean I feel like after so many years I deserve some answers. Are you married to him? Do you have kids? I could not be with a man who desires sex with other men. I would be grossed out to the max and running for the hills. What are you going to do? It's not your fault. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted August 14, 2024 Share Posted August 14, 2024 (edited) I'm a bit late in, but.....yeah, he can't face you because he's living in a Hell of embarrassment, shame, guilt, all of those emotions that caused him to hide his true self from you for a decade. I'd say he probably feels even worse than you do because you're not the one who was sneaking around doing booty calls with strangers, much less hiding a secret gay life. I'm guessing you don't live together if he's ghosted you, or has he run away from home? It's now twelve days since you posted, so have you heard from him? And have you been to your GP for a health check to make sure he's never given you a gift nobody wants? Edited August 14, 2024 by MsJayne Link to post Share on other sites
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