my ex gf jinx me to the bone!

[man]

I've been with my ex for 6-7 years,due to different reasons we stuck with each other all this time,but a year and half ago,it came to a point " when enough is enough" ,so I break up with her.When I look back there are more bad time than happy times,then one day i was talking to my friends about career and stuff,and then it just came to me,everytime when my ex contact me,the following 48 hours the most unexpacted mishap will happen and i have to give extra effort to deal with.Everytime when I was interview for a new job,she can sense these thing and call me.Then i lost the job,it happen 3 times and pattern repeated .jinx or not?

[Tony T]

No such thing as a jinx.

 

However, the mind is a very powerful thing. It absolutely creates your reality. Somewhere in time you may have associated your ex with failure. So if you had a life event close to a time when she contacted you, your mind was programmed to fail. In psychology this is called neuroassociative conditioning.

 

You can either consciously reprogram your mind to associate your ex with success or you can just forget her altogether and not take her calls.

 

Frankly, I think you didn't get these jobs because you weren't the best candidate for them in the judgement of the prospective employer. Get help in brushing up your job interview skills.

 

Later on, get help in learning to take responsibility for what happens to you in life rather than putting it on an ex girlfriend or some sort of superstitious or mystical outside force...like a jinx.

 

Make sure you see "Harry Potter" premiering November 16 at a theatre near you. This movie may help you understand these matters further.

[marzipan]

I don't think she jinxed you. I just think it was a string of bad things that happen sometimes. Like a string of good things, bad things can happen also. It's just when you are going through a rough time that everything else around you feels so much harder to deal with. I think this is the case with you, I don't think she sensed it and purposely tried to hurt you but maybe it just happened around those times and timing for things to happen is never good. I am sure you can agree that there is never a good time for a break up or relationship problem or any life altering situation for that matter, yes?

 

Don't worry about it. I don't think she jinxed you and I don't think she's bad luck. It's just the way a situation goes sometimes. Besides, would it really make you feel better about the relationship if you had a blame or if you could give her credit for sabotaging your possible accomplishments? I don't think so, just chalk it up to bad timing or coincidence and move on. You will be a lot better off.

 

I've been with my ex for 6-7 years,due to different reasons we stuck with each other all this time,but a year and half ago,it came to a point " when enough is enough" ,so I break up with her.When I look back there are more bad time than happy times,then one day i was talking to my friends about career and stuff,and then it just came to me,everytime when my ex contact me,the following 48 hours the most unexpacted mishap will happen and i have to give extra effort to deal with.Everytime when I was interview for a new job,she can sense these thing and call me.Then i lost the job,it happen 3 times and pattern repeated .jinx or not?

[WGirl]

Maybe she is a witch casting an evil spell on you!

I've been with my ex for 6-7 years,due to different reasons we stuck with each other all this time,but a year and half ago,it came to a point " when enough is enough" ,so I break up with her.When I look back there are more bad time than happy times,then one day i was talking to my friends about career and stuff,and then it just came to me,everytime when my ex contact me,the following 48 hours the most unexpacted mishap will happen and i have to give extra effort to deal with.Everytime when I was interview for a new job,she can sense these thing and call me.Then i lost the job,it happen 3 times and pattern repeated .jinx or not?