Helena1111 Posted August 3 Share Posted August 3 I’m wondering if I should text a guy. I do not know him (seen in real life I mean). We connected online on FB, with a lot of mutual friends, and shared interests. I’m a starting a business and I contacted him for cooperation. He’s like really the missing piece in all my connections 🤩. We had some contact, very short, but we missed each other a few times to make a phone call. He was on retrait for a week, then I the next week, then I was busy, and then I was on holiday… And now he is. Since we connected, I really started to like him instantly. His life path is on his website and I find it amazing ☺️. I texted him that and he said he liked it that I am so open and honest. He asked for a call. I was still on holiday, now he is. So we still didn’t find the right moment. He send me quite a cute voice message when he left on holiday. Telling me he would try to find a quiet moment to call, and otherwise we would delay it a bit further (I heard him smiling when he said that). Haven’t heard him yet since he send that voice message 6 days ago… should I text him ? I really don’t want to screw this up! Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted August 3 Share Posted August 3 Of course you should text him. If he likes you, he’ll be glad to receive a text from you. If he doesn’t like you, no amount of texting or non-texting will change that. You have absolutely nothing to lose here. Perhaps you could lower your enthusiasm level a little bit for the time being, though. Don’t invest emotionally into him before you meet in person and before you know for sure that he is single and interested in you. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 4 Share Posted August 4 7 hours ago, Helena1111 said: We had some contact, very short, but we missed each other a few times to make a phone call. He was on retrait for a week, then I the next week, then I was busy, and then I was on holiday… And now he is. People prioritise the things which are most important to them - and this sounds like both of you have the other as low priority. In this modern day with such ease of communication, there's no such thing as being too busy to make a phone call with someone we really want to connect with. Don't get over invested in this till both of you can prioritise making a connection 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 4 Share Posted August 4 11 hours ago, Helena1111 said: Haven’t heard him yet since he send that voice message 6 days ago… should I text him ? Did you reply to that voice message? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helena1111 Posted August 4 Author Share Posted August 4 Yes, I replied ‘Nice, enjoy it 🍀’. And ‘‘’Yes, it will work out one day 😅’ as a reply on him saying ‘we delay it a bit further, but it will work out definitely’ (with a smile). Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted August 4 Share Posted August 4 If he's into you you'll hear from him. As someone else mentioned, it sounds like you're both making a meet-up a low priority, so I wouldn't get too invested. A man who's truly keen will usually want to lock you in as soon as possible. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 4 Share Posted August 4 I'm not reading anything that this guy likes you *that way*. You sound over excited and you're missing the signs he's not into you. He said he likes that you're open and honest right after you told him you like his life path? 🤢. Has he asked any questions about you?? I'm sorry for raining on your parade but l'm not seeing what you're seeing. I would not text him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 6 Share Posted August 6 I would text him. What have you got to lose? Keep in mind that you initially contacted him because of your business, so perhaps he views it as strictly a professional collaboration rather than a romantic one? He is open to communication, so it’s not like he will be upset if you reach out. Just keep it casual and friendly, maybe ask how his holiday is going. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helena1111 Posted August 6 Author Share Posted August 6 Thanks, I did send a message on Saturday. Just saying that I loved the environment on his vacation. He posted it on fb and insta. No answer, but I didn’t ask for anything 😉. Although, I decided to leave it for what it is. I’m focusing on the further start-up of my business. I don’t need him for that, but it would be nice if he would like to cooperate. I’m not going to push it. We will see… 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 6 Share Posted August 6 4 hours ago, Helena1111 said: Thanks, I did send a message on Saturday. Just saying that I loved the environment on his vacation. He posted it on fb and insta. No answer, but I didn’t ask for anything 😉. He's not interested in you <that way>. Men are simple, if they like something they're all over it, he would have started a conversation, he would have said something. An interested man will not leave your message 4 days unattended. Learn to read the signs. Good luck with your business. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 6 Share Posted August 6 On 8/3/2024 at 12:57 PM, Helena1111 said: I contacted him for cooperation. 6 hours ago, Helena1111 said: but it would be nice if he would like to cooperate. What does this mean? What is your idea of cooperation from him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 6 Share Posted August 6 Do you want to date him or just collaborate with him on your business? You've mentioned several times that he is the "missing piece" in your connections, and that you really like him, so it seems like you have a romantic interest in him as well. I think though that you might be confusing your professional interest in him with a potential romantic interest. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted August 6 Share Posted August 6 13 hours ago, Helena1111 said: I did send a message on Saturday. ... No answer, but I didn’t ask for anything 😉. Although, I decided to leave it for what it is. At this point that sounds wise. I get the sense (as do others) you may be barking up the wrong tree... Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 9 Share Posted August 9 (edited) On 8/6/2024 at 1:24 AM, Helena1111 said: Thanks, I did send a message on Saturday. Just saying that I loved the environment on his vacation. He posted it on fb and insta. No answer, but I didn’t ask for anything 😉. Although, I decided to leave it for what it is. I’m focusing on the further start-up of my business. I don’t need him for that, but it would be nice if he would like to cooperate. I’m not going to push it. We will see… Well, you essentially cold approached him via a social networking platform to ask him for help with starting a business. Kind of an odd way to approach someone who you have no relationship or previous contact with that you're romantically interested in, isn't it? Plus, if I were him, I would be wary of someone who came to me out of the blue and wanted my help in starting a business simply because we have mutual friends. This guy probably gets pitched similar opportunities all the time. Depending on how he makes money and/or how many people pitch him, he could easily see straight through your true intentions. If you really want to be connected in the future, you have to put in the effort and establish a friendly rapport, not just ask for favors. Imagine for a second if you were in class, and a student you never met before turned to you and said, "Hey, I like you and I think you're the missing piece in all my connections in this class!" Edited August 9 by Alpacalia 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 9 Share Posted August 9 On 8/4/2024 at 2:57 AM, Helena1111 said: I’m a starting a business and I contacted him for cooperation. He’s like really the missing piece in all my connections Going back to the start here, this guy is a virtual stranger. Did you offer to pay him market rates for his consultation/expertise? If not, this would partially explain his absence. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 9 Share Posted August 9 Men don't care the way you approach them. If they see you and think you're intriging and attractive they will use the opportunity to learn more about you. He was not interested in learning more. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 9 Share Posted August 9 23 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Men don't care the way you approach them. If they see you and think you're intriging and attractive they will use the opportunity to learn more about you. He was not interested in learning more. Agree in most cases. Not all. Her thing about wanting him as a business influencer might have turned him off. Add that to the extra layer of stranger who he's never met poaching him from a friend request/be professional platform......that could definitely leave a bad taste in his mouth. I would be careful not to come off as a "user" or an opportunist. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Helena1111 Posted August 10 Author Share Posted August 10 Hi everybody, what a discussion while I was sleeping 😅🙈. Thanks all for your help. As I said, I know it’s a complicated situation. So I decided to leave it. I got mixed up between suggesting cooperation (where I facilitate the space for consultants and lecturers), and a personal connection. And yes, if I may believe most men, I do look good, but I think some good men are not that much impressed by looks only (fortunately). Whatever it is, it is not my job to figure out how he is functioning or what might be the reason he backed off. I don’t know him. If it’s not meant to be, it’s just like that 🤷♀️. I gave it a shot, and I missed 😉. Have a nice day everyone 🌺 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted August 10 Share Posted August 10 40 minutes ago, Helena1111 said: Hi everybody, what a discussion while I was sleeping 😅🙈. Thanks all for your help. As I said, I know it’s a complicated situation. So I decided to leave it. I got mixed up between suggesting cooperation (where I facilitate the space for consultants and lecturers), and a personal connection. And yes, if I may believe most men, I do look good, but I think some good men are not that much impressed by looks only (fortunately). Whatever it is, it is not my job to figure out how he is functioning or what might be the reason he backed off. I don’t know him. If it’s not meant to be, it’s just like that 🤷♀️. I gave it a shot, and I missed 😉. Have a nice day everyone 🌺 😁 Still don't get what you were trying to get him to cooperate with you on. 😜 But heya, at least you tried! Sorry it didn't work out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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