Sexylilangel021 Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 My ex and I are trying to work things out. We were together for about 7 months, lived together for about 4 months. We have been broken up for a bout about 5 months now. A month ago we decided to start dating again. We are allowed to date other people which i have been doing but he hasn't. He says he wants to start and it stresses me out so bad! I can't deal with even the thought of him taking another girl out!! Well, we have been arguing a lot. He has been real short with me. Couple nights ago i had kissed one of the guys that i have been dating and austin my ex was coming over for the night. Well he asked me when he got here whether i kissed skye (the kid i'm also dating). I said yes and he got real mad.. he said that i qualified to be slut. No he did not come straight out and call me a slut but is it wrong for him to use my name and that word in the same sentence? Well last night.. new years.. we were both drunk and got in an arguement.. he called me a B*TCH! He also pulled my blanket off and threw it at me. No it didn't hurt but it showed his violent side. Should i be bothered by this? He called today and asked if we could just start over.. forget everything that has happened and just have a fresh start. I feel like we're in a pretty deep whole and this is his way of getting out of it.. I'm really confused and just dont know how to feel. I love him but is it worth it? I'm emotionally drained! There is so much more that is bugging me but this is all i'm posting for now so somebody please help clear my head! Link to post Share on other sites
salmagundi Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Why don't you reread what you've written and tell me if the answer isn't obvious. It sounds like you are being really selfish and maybe he doesn't need to be calling you a b*tch but he also doesn't need to be sticking around either. I wouldn't. I mean, honestly WTF? You can date and fool around with other guys but you can't stand the possibility that he'll do the same? In other words, he's supposed to dance on the end of your strings? Seriously...WTF?! for what its worth... salmagundi Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sexylilangel021 Posted January 2, 2006 Author Share Posted January 2, 2006 It's not like that at all. We agreed to date others all i'm saying is it's hard for me to accept it. I would happily end all and date him exclusively but thats not what he wants. This other guy i'm dating.. he's a nice guy. I have not "messed around" with anyone since austin and i have started dating again.. it was simply a kiss. I've been dating this guy for couple months now.. i think a kiss is quite normal. I know that once austin starts dating other girls the same situations are going to arise and i'm just simply stating that it's going to hurt.. Link to post Share on other sites
justhavetoletgo Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I hope this other guy knows of what is going on to me doesn't seem fair at all to him he may be falling for you and you are just playing around with him Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I agree with the other LS'er. It would not be fair to new guy that you are dating him as a transitional guy only to wait around for your ex. Don't treat new guy as an FWB (friends with benefits) when he didn't agree. If you can't deal with your ex dating others, then you two should "get it over with" as in no contact (NC) or date. Open relationships don't work when it is one sided. your ex's issue of being violent, well guess what? It may come back! Link to post Share on other sites
sassybragg Posted March 9, 2006 Share Posted March 9, 2006 It's been a while since you posted this, but if youre still with him.....LEAVE!! Anyone who agrees to date you and others,then gets mad when you do isn't stable. Also he shouldn't be asking "did you kiss him". That's none of his business since you agreed to date others. He is insecure and controlling and the "throwing of the blanket" was a small taste of his anger and intolerance for you seeing other men. Why did you two agree to see other people while seeing each other anyway? Toss it up to a lesson learned and move on. You tried and it didn't work. Even if you were only seeing each other it sounds like he is insanely jealous and may even be seeing someone on the side and not telling you. That would also explain the jealous behavior. People who cheat are suspicious because they know if they can get away with you,so can you. Just some food for thought. My ex and I are trying to work things out. We were together for about 7 months, lived together for about 4 months. We have been broken up for a bout about 5 months now. A month ago we decided to start dating again. We are allowed to date other people which i have been doing but he hasn't. He says he wants to start and it stresses me out so bad! I can't deal with even the thought of him taking another girl out!! Well, we have been arguing a lot. He has been real short with me. Couple nights ago i had kissed one of the guys that i have been dating and austin my ex was coming over for the night. Well he asked me when he got here whether i kissed skye (the kid i'm also dating). I said yes and he got real mad.. he said that i qualified to be slut. No he did not come straight out and call me a slut but is it wrong for him to use my name and that word in the same sentence? Well last night.. new years.. we were both drunk and got in an arguement.. he called me a B*TCH! He also pulled my blanket off and threw it at me. No it didn't hurt but it showed his violent side. Should i be bothered by this? He called today and asked if we could just start over.. forget everything that has happened and just have a fresh start. I feel like we're in a pretty deep whole and this is his way of getting out of it.. I'm really confused and just dont know how to feel. I love him but is it worth it? I'm emotionally drained! There is so much more that is bugging me but this is all i'm posting for now so somebody please help clear my head! Link to post Share on other sites
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