I ended a friendship because he wouldn't have an affair with

[basil67]

9 hours ago, Lostgirl101 said:

I’m a big believer of what will be will be. I believe god has a plan for all of us. I don’t know what the future holds but I just go with it. 

So you don't believe in making smart choices for yourself?    If so, you're on a fast track to being jobless, friendless and homeless

[BaileyB]

1 hour ago, basil67 said:

So you don't believe in making smart choices for yourself?    If so, you're on a fast track to being jobless, friendless and homeless

And divorced.

[ExpatInItaly]

You have remarkably immature and selfish mindset, OP. 

Let your husband go so he can find a woman who behaves like an adult and knows how to be a good wife. That woman isn't you. 

[Lostgirl101]

8 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

You have remarkably immature and selfish mindset, OP. 

Let your husband go so he can find a woman who behaves like an adult and knows how to be a good wife. That woman isn't you. 

I won’t do that because I have a comfortable life. Of course I’m selfish, I can take part in an eight year affair and still not regret it. If anything I wanted to continue, and even look back and wish I kept the baby and brought it up as my husbands. I have a happy home life, my husband adores the floor I walk on, I lack very little in my main life. I guess people don’t like honesty here. 

[ExpatInItaly]

3 minutes ago, Lostgirl101 said:

I guess people don’t like honesty here. 

That's tragically comical, coming from a woman who is incredibly dishonest with her husband all the time. 

Sounds like a crappy life. But you do you. 

 

[BaileyB]

4 hours ago, Lostgirl101 said:

I guess people don’t like honesty here. 

Indeed, you don’t seem to appreciate truth or honesty very much by the way that you angrily dismiss the comments of those who don’t support your selfish entitlement. 

Perhaps your husband will come to his senses someday. I have a hard time believing that you can keep the truth of who you really are from him forever - 

As for your affair partner, I would except that he will turn up again eventually. Toxic and dysfunctional relationships tend to have a long lifespan. One does not engage in a dysfunctional on again-off again relationship such as this for the length of time that the two of you have been doing this dance for him not to turn up again someday… so, you may still get your wish. 

Edited August 10 by BaileyB

[Lostgirl101]

15 minutes ago, BaileyB said:

Indeed, you don’t seem to appreciate truth or honesty very much by the way that you angrily dismiss the comments of those who don’t support your selfish entitlement. 

Perhaps your husband will come to his senses someday. I have a hard time believing that you can keep the truth of who you really are from him forever - 

As for your affair partner, I would except that he will turn up again eventually. Toxic and dysfunctional relationships tend to have a long lifespan. One does not engage in a dysfunctional on again-off again relationship such as this for the length of time that the two of you have been doing this dance for him not to turn up again someday… so, you may still get your wish. 

Don’t assume I’m angry. I am not angry. I agree with everything stated but will I do it, no chance. 

[Lostgirl101]

Just now, Lostgirl101 said:

Don’t assume I’m angry. I am not angry. I agree with everything stated but will I do it, no chance. 

Well I can only hope distance makes me miss me, and he returns. 

[Gebidozo]

6 hours ago, Lostgirl101 said:

I won’t do that because I have a comfortable life. Of course I’m selfish, I can take part in an eight year affair and still not regret it. If anything I wanted to continue, and even look back and wish I kept the baby and brought it up as my husbands. I have a happy home life, my husband adores the floor I walk on, I lack very little in my main life. I guess people don’t like honesty here. 

Honesty? That’s rich, coming from someone who has been lying and cheating and doesn’t regret that.

[stillafool]

I imagine your affair partner wants no part of entering an affair with you because he more than likely is quite aware of what type of woman you are and doesn't want to risk taking something home to his wife.  He knows he could never have more than a sleazy roll in the hay with you because men would never leave a faithful wife for someone who has had multiple affairs on their husband.  Even though men may cheat, fidelity is their number one requirement of a wife.  He knows he could never get that from you because you've already shown him who you are and what you're capable of.

[mark clemson]

12 hours ago, Lostgirl101 said:

I guess people don’t like honesty here. 

What's going on is that you are (inadvertently I assume) triggering some of the folks here who for various reasons have low tolerance and high moral outrage WRT affairs and yet choose to read and opine in the OM/OW section anyhow. Since many if not most posters come here at a point where the affair has "lost its luster" as yours has, they typically (and not unreasonably) talk a person such as yourself further away from their affair/affair partner.

Your not going with that particular flow cuts against the grain for many of these folks, and so they are showing their disagreement with your views/feelings/choices and in some cases are venting on you.

So, that is what you are encountering.

Edited August 10 by mark clemson