Gaeta Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 3 minutes ago, sammy24xx said: I need to manifest a kind soul! Now ask yourself how does a kind soul act, talk, react. When I said you got to know exactly what you're looking for I meant yes, with that much details. We often read stories on here of women complaining their boyfriend is not helpful, lies, doesn't spend quality time with them and they end their story with but he's such a kind human being......ew no! kind souls and human beings are present, they care, they call, they listen, they ask what you need, they value honesty, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 4 hours ago, sammy24xx said: From what I am seeing they can't handle women who are strong minded, make their own good money and have life goals. Then don’t date such men. Most men I know, myself included, are just the opposite: they prefer strong-minded, goal-oriented, financially independent women. And some of them are from the UK. A good friend of mine is from Manchester, and he’s just like that. I can’t believe for a second that all UK men are like you describe. Either you’re repeatedly choosing wrong men (and then you need to ask yourself why), or you are evaluating them wrong (and again, you should understand why). 4 hours ago, sammy24xx said: What happened to the good old days when our grandparents met, and life and love was loyal and beautiful. Is this sarcasm? Because that’s all such a statement could be. The generation of our grandparents (several generations, actually - one of my grandparents was born in the 1870’s, for real😀) was full of hypocrisy and repressed feelings and lifelong secrets and lies, more so than today. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 2 hours ago, sammy24xx said: I need to manifest a kind soul! Have you ever been in a long relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 2 hours ago, sammy24xx said: belittling comments But you’re making belittling comments about men. Men in 2024, British men, men in general. You don’t actually seem to like men. Then why do you expect them to like you? You’re attracting insecure, pitiful men because only such men would tolerate your disrespect of their gender. When you stop thinking bad things about men, you’ll stop attracting bad men and will start attracting good ones. Isn’t that obvious? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 3 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: But you’re making belittling comments about men. Men in 2024, British men, men in general. You don’t actually seem to like men. Then why do you expect them to like you? You’re attracting insecure, pitiful men because only such men would tolerate your disrespect of their gender. When you stop thinking bad things about men, you’ll stop attracting bad men and will start attracting good ones. Isn’t that obvious? Also if you look at things through a certain lens, ie "all men in X place are Y", encounters you have are going to fit that lens, either because of being drawn to these people for the confirmation bias, or interpreting things in a way that fits it though it may not be the full picture. I've never met OP but apparently I'm a guy just like she was referring to because I made a comment that was somewhat questioning. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 (edited) 5 hours ago, sammy24xx said: I meet good looking men, average men, rich men, poor men, kind men, funny men - they're all the same. From what I am seeing they can't handle women who are strong minded, make their own good money and have life goals Then why bother? It's okay to be alone. To answer your thread question "Does love exist for us all?" No, and perhaps it doesn't for you. Edited August 13 by stillafool Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 27 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: Is this sarcasm? Because that’s all such a statement could be. The generation of our grandparents (several generations, actually - one of my grandparents was born in the 1870’s, for real😀) was full of hypocrisy and repressed feelings and lifelong secrets and lies, more so than today. When I read her comment on good old days of love and loyalty I thought I can't touch that, if I do I will be posting here the rest of the day lol. Our grand parents lived in an era when women did not even have a legal status, could not have bank accounts, could not vote, could not divorce. I have a big family, my father had 12 siblings, my mother 16, it's full of stories of illegitimate children, alcoholism, domestic abuse, accidental gun shots while in the barn..ya! that type of stories. The romance lasted 6 months before the wedding. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 15 minutes ago, stillafool said: Then why bother? It's okay to be alone. To answer your thread question "Does love exist for us all?" No, and perhaps it doesn't for you. Perhaps not as I don't like mens romance standards in this day. It doesn't come close to the person I am 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 44 minutes ago, FredEire said: Also if you look at things through a certain lens, ie "all men in X place are Y", encounters you have are going to fit that lens, either because of being drawn to these people for the confirmation bias, or interpreting things in a way that fits it though it may not be the full picture. I've never met OP but apparently I'm a guy just like she was referring to because I made a comment that was somewhat questioning. You see all the men attack my post, just proves my point! no women are commenting. They're great 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 (edited) 56 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: But you’re making belittling comments about men. Men in 2024, British men, men in general. You don’t actually seem to like men. Then why do you expect them to like you? You’re attracting insecure, pitiful men because only such men would tolerate your disrespect of their gender. When you stop thinking bad things about men, you’ll stop attracting bad men and will start attracting good ones. Isn’t that obvious? Yes you're probably right. Edited August 13 by sammy24xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 53 minutes ago, stillafool said: Have you ever been in a long relationship? yes 5 years - I was only 25. I grew out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 (edited) 1 hour ago, Gebidozo said: Then don’t date such men. Most men I know, myself included, are just the opposite: they prefer strong-minded, goal-oriented, financially independent women. And some of them are from the UK. A good friend of mine is from Manchester, and he’s just like that. I can’t believe for a second that all UK men are like you describe. Either you’re repeatedly choosing wrong men (and then you need to ask yourself why), or you are evaluating them wrong (and again, you should understand why). Is this sarcasm? Because that’s all such a statement could be. The generation of our grandparents (several generations, actually - one of my grandparents was born in the 1870’s, for real😀) was full of hypocrisy and repressed feelings and lifelong secrets and lies, more so than today. oh men were beautiful and brilliant back in the day - such gentleman. I have seen videos of them and I was born in the wrong time. Edited August 13 by sammy24xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 17 hours ago, basil67 said: I also feel it would be worth considering how you put yourself forward. You say that you're not vain, but you've just opened a post talking about how attractive you are and what a wonderful person you are. Thing is though, a person who is not vain would not do this. They'd likely make no mention of any of these things (especially appearance) because they don't want to draw attention to themselves. Or they'd put a more subdued description (I take care of myself and try to be a good person) in the last paragraph, kind of like a last bit of information. If you're presenting this level of vainness in real life, it could be affecting your dating Vain would be - '' I am beautiful, blonde and petite'' if you read the OP again - it says ''so I am told often'' I am sorry if this bothers you. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 (edited) 5 minutes ago, sammy24xx said: You see all the men attack my post, just proves my point! no women are commenting. They're great I'm a woman and so is Gaeta and Basil67. Edited August 13 by stillafool 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 Just now, stillafool said: I'm a woman and so is Gaeta and Basil67. oh wow I am shocked! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 Just now, stillafool said: I'm a woman and so is Gaeta and Basil67. you have taken me back there. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 1 minute ago, sammy24xx said: oh wow I am shocked! Why? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 Just now, stillafool said: Why? Because I thought you ladies would understand more! I'm very much a women women! I thought you might have more to relate with as a lot of women do. Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 1 minute ago, sammy24xx said: Because I thought you ladies would understand more! I'm very much a women women! I thought you might have more to relate with as a lot of women do. What country are you from? Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 Just now, Sony12 said: What country are you from? England unfortunate 🤣 Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 Just now, sammy24xx said: England unfortunate 🤣 Just curious. You don't sound like you are very familiar with the current dating culture. Ever since the Internet became a common outlet for people to find dates dating has turned into a complete crapshoot. Both men and women play the field. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 Just now, Sony12 said: Just curious. You don't sound like you are very familiar with the current dating culture. Ever since the Internet became a common outlet for people to find dates dating has turned into a complete crapshoot. Both men and women play the field. that's the point it's horrific. What do I do haha! I mean I have no ties and a good job - I may pack up one day and move to another country. Crapshoot - that made me lol! Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 4 minutes ago, sammy24xx said: Because I thought you ladies would understand more! I'm very much a women women! I thought you might have more to relate with as a lot of women do. LOL, I don't just blindly go along with women just because they are women, especially if I don't agree with them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author sammy24xx Posted August 13 Author Share Posted August 13 Just now, stillafool said: LOL, I don't just blindly go along with women just because they are women, especially if I don't agree with them. No no - that's not what I said sweetheart. I said I thought as a women you may have some understanding and be able to relate. Clearly not. We are all different though hey Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 13 Share Posted August 13 16 minutes ago, sammy24xx said: oh men were beautiful and brilliant back in the day - such gentleman. I have seen videos of them and I was born in the wrong time. OH sweet pea! Videos and movies are not reality. Link to post Share on other sites
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