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I saw a friend tonight. I don’t see her much as she only contacts when things are not going well.

I saw her a few months ago and she said about a bike ride me, her and our exes went in on 2008. She said I was crying. The truth was she was crying and she was struggling with the hills. I told it was not me. She has said the same ago tonight and I said it must have been someone else and changed the subject. 

I would have had it out with her but earlier in the night she told me she was low and suicidal as she is struggling with being her dad’s carer as he has dementia. I sat there for 2 hours tonight writing down carer support groups and activity groups for dementia patients and sending her the links and she repays me by making up lies about me about a bike ride from 16 years ago.

I feel I am being taken for a mug.

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Just this evening my mother and I had quite different memories from a thing we were both at many years ago.  There was no malice on either side....so best not to assume malice from different recollections which are ancient history 

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ShyViolet

Did you ever consider that maybe she's not purposely lying, maybe she's just remembering it differently.... the human memory is very flawed and it does happen.  Regardless, she sounds like a person with a lot of problems.  And you say she only comes around when things are not going well for her and she vents about her problems.  I would find that very exhausting and I probably wouldn't put up with that for too long.

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On 8/18/2024 at 10:07 AM, Angel29 said:

she only contacts when things are not going well.

And that's a very good reason to fade this person from your life altogether. 

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