b52srock Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Just a little update on the current situation.... As I suspected, the reason he had my daughter's birthday party at his house instead of on neutral ground as I'd asked him to was so his wh*re could be there to play mommy in my place. They baked a cake together and entertained all her little friends. When I had asked him why I wasn't invited previously, his response was that HE wanted to bake her cake and that it was easier to have the party at his house than somewhere else. What a friggin' lie! What the wh*re wants, the wh*re gets. I've told my daughter she may keep the Christmas and birthday presents the bit*h gave her, but she must keep them at her father's house as I want NOTHING that came from that woman in my home. (And no, I didn't say bit*h even though I wanted to.) I have also informed him through email that he has finally pushed me over the edge and I will be fighting back. I pointed out the numerous times that he has been in contempt of court, including my daughter's birthday as well as the medical bills that he is responsible for and I have paid for. In addition I have let him know that if necessary I will reveal his secret life...he's a crossdresser. All during the divorce, no matter how angry and hurt I got, I never threatened to bring that into the open because I truly did not want to hurt him or destroy his reputation. Now the gloves are off. Oh...and I've got a call in to a good counsellor in town and will begin as soon as possible. I'm going to need all the strength I can muster for this fight. I still blame myself for everything that has happened and its time to get over that. Wish me luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 I'm glad to hear that you're going to be getting some support in dealing with your feelings of anger and loss. I can't imagine that I would feel any different than you do if I had been through such a traumatic and devastating event. I would certainly hate both my husband and the OW, and be hard-pressed not to react vindictively. It's not necessary that you feel any love in your heart for these people who continue to hurt you the way that they do. You needn't forgive or forget if you're disinclined to do so. But the opposite of love is NOT hate. It's indifference. That's what you need to be shooting for right now. Because these strong negative emotions that you're experiencing in regards to your ex and his mistress are only really hurting YOU. Those two a*holes aren't losing sleep over it. Maybe when you're finally getting some emotional support in counseling, it'll be easier to focus your energy on you and your kids. Your ex and his mistress do NOT deserve that kind of emotional expenditure. They are unworthy of your attention. Link to post Share on other sites
GuySimple Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 Bifty2, you rock girl. I think I’m in love. Cross-dressing eh, you could do a lot of damage to a guy in a thong by giving them wedgies. Too funny. A lady I worked with use to hate her X’s “wh*re” so she sent her flowers when she knew the woman wouldn’t be home, but her X was, with a card that said “thanks for being there” and just an initial. Needless to say the x opened the card as they are always curious and…. Link to post Share on other sites
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