Debra Velez Posted August 22 Share Posted August 22 You know how sometimes you meet someone and it feels like you've known them forever? Well, that's kinda what's happening with me. We've been hanging out for a few weeks now, and it's been so chill and fun. I mean, we've talked about everything under the sun. We've laughed, we've cried (okay, maybe not cried yet, but you know what I mean). We've even met each other's friends. It's like we're building this awesome little world together. I'm not gonna lie, I'm kinda excited to see where this goes. But you know, I'm also trying to take it slow and not get too ahead of myself. I just want to enjoy every moment and see what happens naturally. What do you think? Is it too soon to start dreaming about future vacations and matching outfits? Or should I just keep things casual for a while longer? Let me know what you think! Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted August 22 Share Posted August 22 1 hour ago, Debra Velez said: What do you think? Is it too soon to start dreaming about future vacations and matching outfits? Yes it is. Enjoy this exciting new relationship but don't get carried away. You have known this person a few weeks. You don't really know them. When we are in a very new relationship with someone we show them the best side of ourselves. Have fun but don't be naive. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 22 Share Posted August 22 Yes it's too soon. You are in the honeymoon phase, just enjoy the moment. Have you addressed exclusivity? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted August 23 Share Posted August 23 16 hours ago, Debra Velez said: What do you think? Is it too soon to start dreaming about future vacations and matching outfits? Or should I just keep things casual for a while longer? It’s definitely too soon to start dreaming about future vacations and such, but there is no need to keep things casual if you want to be exclusive with that person. Don’t discuss the future too much, but definitely make sure that you’re only dating each other first. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 23 Share Posted August 23 Glad to see you're having fun but yes slow your roll a bit. Pace yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted August 23 Share Posted August 23 (edited) Yes. Please nip your imagination in the bud when you find yourself dreaming about matching outfits. You don't even know if this man is the type to wear a matching outfit with his partner. I certainly wouldn't. Ew. Seriously, have fun, and if you both want to be exclusive and not date others at this point, why not do that. The whole "creating a little world" at this point is dangerous. You can get to know him and grow to care a lot without turning your life over in the first few dates. Keep your own personal world in full functioning mode. Edited August 23 by NuevoYorko 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted August 23 Share Posted August 23 Yes it's called infatuation. You feel like you've known them 1000s of years, they are a perfect kisser, everything about them is extremely beautiful and alluring. It's very much a kind of drug and a trick of the mind, so you have to try and be careful with it and temper it with a bit of reality, otherwise you can end up getting wrecked when they suddenly aren't feeling it any more, or the realization kicks in that they're just a flawed human being and you aren't feeling it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 24 Share Posted August 24 I felt like this when I met my long term partner. My advice is to enjoy it, but also keep your feet firmly on the ground by reminding yourself that it's still early days I also advise you to NEVER wear matching outfits 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24 Share Posted August 24 On 8/22/2024 at 10:09 PM, Debra Velez said: What do you think? Is it too soon to start dreaming about future vacations and matching outfits? It's certainly okay to be excited about a new love interest, but yes, too soon to be fantasizing too much. Enjoy what you're bulding, keep perspective and see how things unfold. Link to post Share on other sites
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