tacoman Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Just a few questions that got me thinking over the past few days. It has been 9 months since me and the old ex of 5 years broke up (she hooked up with someone else from work about 2 weeks later) anyway..... I have been using these forums for great support for the past few months and am finally feeling good about myself, got a new job, etc... things are for sure moving in a positive direction. With that in mind, i know all about NC (i did not contact her for 7 months until i sent her a christmas email because i thought it obsurd to pretend like i wasnt thinking about her, but nothing mushy or anything, very short) I am looking for opinions to some of her actions in regards to being POSITIVE towards possibly being able to talk with her again. I know all about the negatives and moving on, etc. (which i am doing slowly) but that is why i am asking this question in the "2nd chance" section. So dont do what this board usually does and try to chew me up and spit me out. Basically my sister ran into her mom (they work together) and i briefly spoke to her friend. Bare in mind she has not reached out to me in anyway, but..... 1. Her friend said that she said "my life is turning to mush and i have nothing to look forward too" (i have no idea if she is still with the guy, but i think she is) 2. She got a dog (typical breakup thing IMO and seems awkward for their long distance relationship) 3. She keeps all my emails, even the shortest dumbsest ones, but deletes almost everything else, sometimes more significant than anything i was writing. 4. her mom said that she was "wanting to know where i went for christmas" and was basically "wondering" a lot about what i was doing, etc.. 5. She was convinced that i and my entire family "hates her". 6. Her mom said she has NEVER spoke to her about our relationship (she tells her mom everything) i find that weird based on the fact of how much talking about it helped me and i could not imagine building that up inside. Her mom said she doesnt push the subject on her. To me that seems like a real bad way to deal with something (we were very very close for 6 years and dated for 5, something just seems strange with that) Those are all i can think of right now. Is there anything to read into with those statements or just normal things? She has never contacted me first, but if she thinks i hate her....she responded immediatly to my christmas email, nothing groundbreaking, but still a quick response. I am yet to respond to that (it did not ask any questions, etc only statements) any opinions would be appreciated. thanks for your time Link to post Share on other sites
ElizabethH Posted January 2, 2006 Share Posted January 2, 2006 Hi Tacoman--- I'm a 45 year old woman with a bit of relationship experience under my belt...Hey...you two have a big history! You are practically family! I would go ahead and call this girl and invite her out for a walk. (Movement is good for talking). Just ask her how she's doing. As long as you feel strong enough to be able to see her with the idea that you might not get back together...what have you got to lose? She doesn't hold a key to your happiness. Show her you are strong and happy and have fun! Eliz Link to post Share on other sites
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