confused _one Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 Well my dad had recently cheated on my mom im now 18 and I still cant get over the hate I have for him he never calls me, he says hes gonna come visit me but then no his girlfriends kids are more important than his own. Im moving out in July but I just think that this anger I have is never gonna leave. Do I need councelling its been 2 years. It makes it so hard to put trust in men. I still cant get over that he left, and that he has ditched me so many times. Today he said he was coming over and he didnt so this is the 50th time hes said it and never followed through so I called him were going out for lunch tommoro. I just dont know what to do Im moving away to get away from all the horrible memories, but I dont know if theyll ever leave me what do I do. Hes never been there for me when I needed him, wont give us alot of money, never calls. Is enough enough or should I try and forgive him when I know im just gonna get turned down. Me and my dad were so close im half of him. It just kills me inside when I think of it thats why I fill my mind being a workaholic and try to do anything to keep my mind busy. I just am so confused still and just dont know what to do. Im afraid all my memories have been scared and its just so hard to accept. Can someone tell me what I should do. How do I cope with a divorse and abandonment and him choosing his girlfriends kids over his own. Please Help me Link to post Share on other sites
Mistaken Identity Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 Hi. I'm sorry to hear about your problems. I don't know if I can be of much help, but I'll try. First: Did your parents have a happy marriage? This seems harsh to say, but it's unlikely--although certainly possible--that a happily committed person will cheat on their spouse. This is actually good news, because you don't need to suspect all men of cheating. Second: Is your dad's girlfriend controlling? (Why is she his girlfriend and not his wife?) Is she keeping your dad from seeing you? Third: Do you behave sarcastically when your dad says he'll call or visit? You should tell him you look forward to seeing him, and pin him down to a time and place! By the way, do you meet him someplace other than at your mom's house? I imagine he may not feel very comfortable going over there. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm sticking up for your dad. I'm just trying to think of solutions. Link to post Share on other sites
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